When Millie Smith and Lewis Cann found out they were expecting a baby, they were overjoyed. As there was a history of twins in Millie’s family, she had a strong feeling that she was going to give birth to two little ones, and her instincts were right. The ultrasound confirmed that she was indeed expecting twins, but the doctors told them that one of the babies had a very small chance of survival.
ragically, one of their daughters was born at 30 weeks with anencephaly, a serious condition that affects the development of the brain and spinal cord. They learned that their precious baby had only moments or hours to live.
Knowing this, Millie and Lewis wanted to give her a name before they said goodbye. They chose the name Skye. Millie explained: “We felt she needed a name before she arrived. Knowing she wouldn’t be with us for long, I wanted her to have a name in those fleeting moments”.
The name “Skye” symbolized a connection to a place they could always remember when they looked up to the sky. “We held Skye close as she died. It was the most heartbreaking moment of our lives, but I’m proud that she fought to spend that time with us.” Skye only lived for three hours, a brief time filled with love while her parents cherished her beauty and presence.
After her death, Millie and Lewis were supported by a “bereavement midwife” and given access to a “Daisy Room”, a special room where parents could spend time with their baby before and after death. However, after Skye was gone, her memory seemed to fade; no one spoke of her, leaving Millie feeling like her daughter had never existed, which made her angry.
“Most of the nurses knew what had happened, but as the weeks went by, people stopped mentioning Skye. Other families around me had no idea about our loss”, Millie recalls.
While her other daughter, Callie, was still in the NICU, another mother who knew nothing about Millie’s situation remarked how lucky she was not to have twins. “None of the other parents knew about Skye, and that innocent comment almost broke me. I left the room in tears but didn’t have the heart to explain”, Millie said. “A simple sticker could have prevented this.”
This experience inspired Millie to design a sticker for incubators to mark the loss of one or more babies in a multiple birth. She chose butterflies to symbolise the ‘flown away’ babies and used the colour purple, which is suitable for any gender.
From this idea grew the Skye High Foundation, which promotes the Purple Butterflies initiative and helps raise awareness in hospitals around the world. The foundation also offers a range of purple butterfly merchandise.
“Although I can’t prevent these situations from occurring, I believe the more support we can provide through initiatives like the stickers, the better it will be for others who suffer this loss. It’s an incredibly tough journey”, said Millie. Today, her surviving daughter Callie is seven years old.
My head dropped when my daughter revealed what she saw! Read full story
Both Dani and Nathan felt they were meant to be together when they first met in high school. They got married after a few years and anticipated a great life together. But after just two years of marriage, Nathan made a change.
Dani didn’t know if the two having a newborn girl into their lives had anything to do with that shift. Ultimately, Nathan was an excellent father, thus it was most likely not the cause behind his harsh criticism of Dani.
He began to feel self-conscious about her appearance and advised her to take better care of her beauty. “Dani, you’ve just let yourself go.” he remarked. “Always dressed in such dowdy attire. Do you believe that’s how you’ll maintain the spark?
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Despite working from home and spending a lot of time with tiny Ellie, he also accused her of being a bad mother.
“It’s the computer screen that you’re always behind. Even so, are you paying Ellie enough attention? It doesn’t appear to be. Every night when I get home from work, she is by herself.Dani tried everything to please Nathan, but she finally gave up because he was never delighted with whatever she produced.
Dani saw her marriage disintegrating and made the decision to let it go because she lacked the strength to battle something that was confined to her husband’s imagination.
One day, Nathan informed Dani that they had to relocate since he had a job opportunity. Dani was okay with the decision to move to a different city because Ellie was in the first grade and she worked from home. She secretly hoped that the adjustment would have a favorable effect on their marriage.
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After Ellie transferred to a new school, Dani saw that her daughter was beginning to behave badly when she got home. She even discovered her sobbing in her room one day.
“Honey, what took place?” Concerned, Dani enquired.
“Miss Allen is not the mother I desire! You should become my mommy. Ellie started crying.
Dani felt a cold rush through. Ellie’s instructor was Miss Allen.
She questioned, “Why would she become your mother?”
As Ellie began telling her mother everything she had learned over the past few days, tears streamed down her face. She felt as though the burden bearing down on her shoulders was gradually lifting.
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When Dad picked me up from school yesterday, Miss Allen asked me to wait outside the door while she had a conversation with Dad. Though I didn’t hear everything, I did hear her promise to be a better mother to me. Dad chuckled at her comment.
Nathan was involved in a romantic relationship.
Dani poured Nathan a drink that night after confirming Ellie was asleep.
“Okay,” she started. “With Ellie, Miss Allen seems to be really good.”
He questioned, his eyes brightening. “Really?” “Ellie liked her, I knew that.”
“Enough for her new mother to be Miss Allen?” Dani enquired. “What’s going on, and please don’t tell me a lie.”
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Embarrassed to look up, Nathan turned to face the ground. However, he acknowledged visiting his daughter’s instructor. Not long after they first met, they began their affair. That wasn’t all, though. He had an affair with a different woman back where they used to reside, and she began to demand more of him than just being his mistress. For this reason, he chose to move and change occupations.
Dani realized then that her marriage was over.
She moved Ellie to a different school in the days that followed because she needed to be loved and safeguarded and not get entangled in her father’s adulterous activities.
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Dani went to a new home and filed for divorce. Nathan is allowed to see his daughter anytime he wants.
Do you believe Dani made the proper decision?
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