This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Willow Smith Claims Her Success Has Nothing To Do With Her Parents
The gifted 23-year-old singer and actress Willow Smith wants everyone to know that she is not solely successful because of her well-known parents, Will and Jada Pinkett Smith. Willow has always aimed to establish herself as an independent artist and forge her own distinct route in the entertainment world, even though she was raised in the spotlight.
Early Starts and Musical Journey
Willow’s career in Hollywood began at an early age, as she starred in her father’s popular film, I Am Legend, at the age of seven. Then, at ten years old, she captured the attention of the music industry with her popular song, Whip My Hair. But Willow has always made a concerted effort to separate herself from her parents’ celebrity and forge her own path as an artist.
Willow has put out five studio albums over the years, and this weekend she will release Empathogen, her much awaited sixth album. Willow recently spoke with Allure magazine and about her experiences in the music business. She said that having to deal with the idea that her fame comes only from her parents has made her even more driven to work hard.
Rejecting the Label of “Nepo Baby”
Willow is adamant that she does not match the stereotype of a “nepo baby,” or someone who succeeds only as a result of their connections, despite what some may think. She has put forth a lot of effort to demonstrate her abilities and talent on her own. Willow said with assurance, “I don’t have to prove anything to anyone anymore.” She realizes that her uniqueness and spirit will always come through, even in the face of her parents’ celebrity.
Accepting Black Identity and Relationships
Willow also discussed the difficulties of being a Black woman in the United States. She emphasized that being Black is a crucial component of her identity, despite her status. Willow is proud of her chocolate complexion and uses it to establish connections with other people. She made sure to say, “I adore being Black. And as everyone knows, that’s a place of connection but it doesn’t absolve you of responsibility for anything.
The Self-Reliant Smith Brothers
There are more Smith siblings than Willow who have made the decision to follow their own path apart from their well-known parents. Jaden Smith, her older brother, was similarly successful at an early age. Jaden debuted with their father in the movie The Pursuit of Happyness. Since then, he has established his own clothing line and pursued a prosperous rap career.
Jaden and Willow have demonstrated that they are more than just famous people’s kids. They have cultivated their own environments for growth, accepted their uniqueness, and pushed boundaries in their specialized industries. Willow’s tale shows the strength of self-belief and perseverance in achieving success in spite of negative opinions from the outside world.
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