Carrie Bradshaw once said, “I will literally be the old woman who lived in her shoes.” But Sarah Jessica parker, the woman behind the sassy fashionista in the hit TV show Sex and the City, isn’t Jimmy Choo-obsessed, nor does she have a wardrobe filled with playful tutus and strappy slip dresses.Still, the confident 58-year-old actor is fielding hateful comments from the online population who can’t understand why her real-life persona is contrary to the modish character she plays.
Parker, who’s proudly aging naturally, gracefully and beautifully, answers back saying it’s, “just not a reality,” and “there’s no time to let vanity enter.” Keep reading to learn what the lovely Sarah Jessica Parker has to say about aging!
In her role as the beloved Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City, Sarah Jessica Parker served some iconic, oftentimes controversial, looks.
While her character was considered a trendsetter by women across the globe, Parker in real life, has never been an urban chic fashionista.
“It’s not the way I perceive myself, I’m so low on my priority list,” said Parker, who raised three children while she was at the height of her career. “I love beautiful clothes and am privileged enough to have access to a lot them…but they also are returned the next day. They are not mine.”
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In real life, the star admits that she prefers a practical style, which isn’t always popular with the demanding public.
Unsexiest woman alive
In fact, in 2008, she was named in a Maxim poll as the “Unsexiest Woman Alive.”
Shortly after she earned the unflattering title, Parker spoke with Grazia (through Daily Mail) and said, “Do I have big fake boobs, Botox and big lips? No. Do I fit some ideals and standards of some men writing in a men’s magazine? Maybe not.” The star of And Just Like That continues, “Am I really the unsexiest woman in the world? Wow! It’s kind of shocking when men…It’s so brutal in a way…”
Years later, the Family Stone star appeared at the Met Gala wearing a golden Dolce & Gabbana gown that she paired with an ornate nativity headpiece.
Though she was serving an incredibly unique and smashing look, the public only commented on her aging.
“Aye real quick, how old is Sarah Jessica Parker because [her] skin look like tree bark and I’m confused,” said one. A second writes, “Is that Sarah Jessica Parker? Oh gosh she looks so old and worn out.”
Then, in 2021, the Hocus Pocus star was lunching with Bravo star Andy Cohen. Parker was makeup free, her silvery hair tied back in a braided ponytail.
It didn’t take long for the online population to start spitting hate over her appearance. But, Cohen, who also has a head of grey hair, defended his friend.
“We were at lunch and there was a paparazzi, and she’s sitting next to me, white hair,” said Cohen, 55, of his own white hair. Speaking on The Drew Barrymore Show, he continued, “All the articles were ‘Sarah Jessica Parker, she’s going gray’ and ‘She looks old,’ and it was insanity.
Here she is sitting next to me, who’s gray, and people just missed the mark totally. It was so misogynistic.”
Following that, Parker spoke with Vogue and had a lot to say about unforgiving people and their unrealistic standards of beauty.
“There’s so much misogynist chatter… I’m sitting with Andy Cohen, and he has a full head of gray hair, and he’s exquisite. Why is it okay for him?” Parker continues, “‘She has too many wrinkles, she doesn’t have enough wrinkles.’ It almost feels as if people don’t want us to be perfectly okay with where we are, as if they almost enjoy us being pained by who we are today, whether we choose to age naturally and not look perfect, or whether you do something if that makes you feel better.
She adds, “I know what I look like. I have no choice. What am I going to do about it? Stop aging? Disappear?”
Influential woman
The title of “unsexist woman alive” was upstaged in 2022 when the Golden Globe winning actor was named by Time as one of its “100 most influential people in the world.”
Though she may not dress the part of Carrie, who’s the star of the TV series, two films and the reboot And Just Like That, Parker does own her own designer brand, SJP, which – not surprisingly – started as shoes.
The star of Honeymoon in Vegas is also a TV producer, the co-founder of the spirit “The Perfect Cosmo by SJP” (Carrie’s favorite drink), is involved with publishing, fragrances and has a wine label – to name a few.
And just like that
Also unlike Carrie and her hapless search for romance, the star of Footloose found love in the early 1990s with Matthew Broderick, the star of Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.
The adorable couple – who starred on Broadway together – married on May 19, 1997, and have been together ever since.
When Broderick was asked to reveal his secret for a successful marriage, he answered: “I don’t know the secret at all, but I, you know, I’m very grateful and I love her. It’s amazing. I mean, I can’t believe that it’s been that long. It doesn’t feel like it.”
The couple share three kids, son James Wilkie (born 2002), along with twins Tabitha Hodge and Marion Loretta Elwell, who joined the family in 2009, via surrogate.
The woman leads a busy life and should be applauded for her accomplishments, not criticized.
Speaking natural in real life, the actor said, “It’s not how I think of myself, and I think it’s probably the healthier approach.”
She continues, “It’s just not a reality – not when you have three kids, and you go to the market, and there are hungry people at home. You have a limited time to do it. There’s just no time to let vanity enter into that.”
My Family Dumped Grandma at the Airport and Left for Vacation Without Her—They Didn’t Expect Me to Strike Back
Some people show their true colors when you least expect it. For me, it came through a tearful call from my grandma, who was dumped at the airport because my family thought pushing her wheelchair was too much trouble. They went on vacation without her, thinking they’d never face consequences.
After losing both my parents, my family circle had shrunk to just my dad’s sister, Aunt Liz, her husband Ron, and my two grandmothers—including Grandma Ruth, my last connection to Mom’s side. She may use a wheelchair, but she doesn’t let anyone tell her what she can or can’t do… and that’s exactly what I adore about her.
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Living three states away with my husband and two kids, plus working two jobs, made regular visits difficult. So when a bonus check landed in my account, I thought, “Why not give them a memory?”
I booked my remaining family a fully paid vacation to Paradise Cove. Flights, hotel, meals—all prepaid under my name.
“Amy, you shouldn’t have!” Aunt Liz gushed over the phone. “This is too much!”
“Family comes first, right, Aunt Liz?” I said, and back then, I meant every word.
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The morning they left, Aunt Liz posted a photo from the airport gate. All smiles with the caption: “Family is everything! ❤️🌴 #Blessed”
I was in my office when my phone rang three hours later.
“Hello?”
“Amy…?” Grandma’s voice trembled, barely audible over the airport announcements.
“Grandma Ruth? What’s wrong?”
“I’m still at the airport, honey. They… they left me.”
“Left you? What do you mean?”
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“Liz said pushing my wheelchair was too much trouble. That I was moving too slowly and they’d miss their flight. They just… walked away.”
My stomach dropped like a stone.
“Where are you exactly?”
“Terminal B. By the coffee shop. I don’t know what to do.”
“Don’t move. I’m going to fix this.”
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I hung up and immediately texted Aunt Liz: “Why did you leave Grandma Ruth at the airport? She’s alone and crying.”
The reply came fast: “We’re on vacation! We’re not babysitters. Maybe if she wasn’t so slow and helpless, she could have kept up. Don’t ruin this for us.”
I stared at those words, something inside me hardening with each second.
“Karen!” I called my assistant. “I need your help.”
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While Karen flew back to my hometown to pick up Grandma Ruth, I sat down at my laptop. Every booking—the flights, the hotel, and even the rental car—was under my name. I had full control.
I called the hotel first.
“Paradise Cove Resort, how can I help you?”
“Hi, this is Amy. I need to cancel a reservation.”
After processing the cancellation, I added: “Do you have any availability for a spa package next weekend? Something really nice… and oceanfront.”
“We have our Serenity Suite available with daily massages and premium dining.”
“Perfect. I’d like to book that for two people.”
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Next, I canceled my family’s return tickets. No drama, just a few clicks, and their way home vanished.
My phone buzzed a few hours later. It was Karen.
“I’ve got her. We’re grabbing some food before our flight,” she said.
“Put her on a video call, please.”
“Amy?” Grandma Ruth’s voice was steadier now. “Did I do something wrong?”
My heart sank. “No, Grandma. You didn’t do anything wrong. THEY DID.”
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“But why would they just leave me like this?”
“Some people only care about themselves. But I care about you. Karen’s bringing you to my house, and then you and I are going on our own special trip next weekend.”
“Oh, honey, you don’t have to do that.”
“I want to. Ocean views, room service, everything.”
She paused. “What about Liz and Ron?”
“Don’t worry about them. They wanted a vacation. They got one.”
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I ignored the flood of calls and texts that started coming in hours later. I imagined them arriving at Paradise Cove, only to learn there was no reservation under their names.
“Amy, there’s a problem with the hotel. Call me back immediately,” Aunt Liz texted, her words tight with irritation.
Twenty minutes later: “This isn’t funny. We’re sitting in the lobby with all our luggage. Fix this now.”
By the third text, panic had crept in: “Please call us back. The whole island is booked solid. We don’t know what to do.”
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I deleted each message as it came in, and Tom brought me a glass of wine while I waited for Karen’s flight to land.
“Still not answering?” he asked.
“Nope.”
“Good.”
“I also canceled their return flights.”
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Tom nearly choked on his wine. “Remind me never to get on your bad side.”
“They abandoned her like she was inconvenient luggage.”
“You did the right thing. When do you plan to talk to them?”
“When Grandma Ruth is safe in our guest room. Not a minute before.”
***
My grandmother arrived just after midnight, exhausted but smiling weakly.
“There’s my girl!” she said, opening her arms to me.
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I hugged her gently, breathing in the familiar scent of lavender and rosemary oil. “I’m so sorry this happened,” I whispered.
“Not your fault. You’re a good granddaughter.”
Once she was settled with tea, I checked my phone. Seventeen missed calls, 23 texts, and five voicemails.
The final text: “HAD TO PAY $460 FOR A FILTHY MOTEL. WHAT DID YOU DO???”
I turned to Tom. “I think it’s time.”
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Alone in our kitchen, I dialed Aunt Liz’s number.
“Amy! What’s going on? We’re stranded, the hotel has no—”
“How’s your vacation going, Aunt Liz?”
“What did you do?”
“I canceled everything. Hotel, return flights, all of it.”
“What?? You… you can’t do that!”
“Actually, I can! It was all booked under my name.”
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“Why would you do this to us?”
I laughed. “That’s rich coming from the woman who abandoned a 78-year-old at the airport.”
“We didn’t abandon her. We just—”
“Left her alone, in a wheelchair, with no help. Then lied about coming back.”
“She was slowing us down! We would have missed our flight!”
“So you miss the flight,” I snapped. “All of you. That’s what family does.”
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“Don’t lecture me about family. You’re never even around.”
“I work two jobs to support my children. And still found the time and money to send you on vacation.”
“Where is she?”
“Safe… with people who actually care about her.”
“You need to fix this. Book us new flights home, at least.”
I took a deep breath. “No.”
“No? What do you mean, no?”
“Figure it out yourselves. Consider it a life lesson in consequences.”
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“You snake!” she spat. “Your mother would be ashamed of you.”
“My mother would be horrified by what you did. Don’t speak for her.”
“We’re family, Amy. You can’t just—”
“Family doesn’t leave family behind. You made your choice at that airport gate. I’m making mine now.”
I hung up and blocked her number.
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The spa weekend with Grandma Ruth was everything I’d hoped. We got massages as waves crashed outside, ate seafood overlooking the ocean, and talked for hours about Mom, life, and everything.
On our last evening, we sat on the balcony with glasses of champagne, and Grandma took my hand.
“This isn’t the first time Liz and Ron have treated me… differently. Since your mom passed, they’ve canceled plans and forgotten to include me. I didn’t want to burden you.”
My heart ached. “Why didn’t you tell me?”
She patted my hand. “You have your own family and troubles, dear. I didn’t want to be a burden.”
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“You could never be a burden, Grandma.”
She smiled, her eyes crinkling. “I know that now.”
Before bed, I posted a photo of us. Grandma Ruth in a fluffy spa robe and me with my arm around her, tropical flowers in our hair.
The caption? “Family is everything. 🥰“
***
My cousin Jen called the next day.
“Mom and Dad are losing their minds. They spent three nights in some roach motel. Dad got food poisoning.”
“Tragic!”
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Jen snorted. “Between us? They deserved it. I can’t believe they left Grandma Ruth.”
“You didn’t know?”
“No! Mom tried to spin some story about Grandma choosing to stay behind, but Dad cracked under questioning. Your revenge was pure art, by the way. Evil genius level.”
I laughed. “Is that a compliment?”
“Absolutely. Is Grandma okay?”
“She’s great. We just got back from Paradise Cove. Spa treatments, room service, the works.”
“Oh my God! You didn’t…!?”
“I did! With plenty of pictures for your parents to enjoy.”
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It’s been two months since the airport incident. Aunt Liz and Uncle Ron still aren’t speaking to me… a bonus I didn’t even ask for.
Grandma Ruth moved in with us last week. We converted the office into a sunny bedroom overlooking the garden. The kids adore having her. She’s teaching my daughter to knit and my son how to make her famous apple pie.
Last night, as we sat watching fireflies blink in the gathering darkness, she turned to me.
“Thank you, sweetie.”
“For what?”
“For showing me that I matter.”
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I rested my head on her shoulder, just like I used to do as a little girl. “You’ve always mattered, Grandma.”
“Maybe so. But sometimes we need reminding.”
We sat in comfortable silence for a while.
“You know what I’ve learned?” I said finally.
“What’s that, sweetheart?”
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“People show their true character not through grand gestures, but through small, everyday choices. Who they help when it’s inconvenient. Who they protect when it costs them something.”
Grandma nodded. “And who they leave behind when no one’s watching.”
“Exactly.”
She squeezed my hand. “Well, I’m watching now. And I see you, Amy.”
Some people say revenge doesn’t solve anything. Maybe they’re right. But sometimes justice tastes like room service pancakes shared with a grandmother who finally knows how cherished she truly is. And that feels like healing enough for me.
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