Life is everchanging. It seems to become more chaotic the older we get and the more industrialized we as a society become. So, going into stores or malls isn’t as feasible as it once was. Consequently, online shopping has become more common, and in many cases, is the new normal.
Although online shopping is much more convenient, there are some downsides including the possibility of not getting exactly what you thought you were buying. Additionally, more intense downsides exist, such as safety concerns. To combat some of these concerns and ensure safety, Pembroke, Ontario, a small city in Canada, is using a handshake symbol as a new solution to ensure safety. Their idea, while unconventional, could prove to ensure the safety of thousands of shoppers. If proven successful, Pembroke may transform the way people undertake online shopping.
Handshake Symbols Represent Safety
A handshake symbol is showing up in parking spaces all over the city. Pembroke’s police department, Pembroke OPP, gave a statement regarding the new handshake symbol parking spots. “The purpose of Project Safe Trade is to create a ‘community safety zone’ at an OPP detachment parking lot to facilitate online property transactions,” the OPP said in the news release. “Creating a ‘community safety zone’ is about moving online transactions away from secluded parking lots, personal residences or other areas and bringing them to a public place.”
Parameters of the Project
Amazingly, the handshake symbol spots, called “safe trade spots,” will be available 24 hours a day and will not require appointments. The way these spots work is simple. If you’ve purchased something online but have to pick it up, or pay, in person, the handshake symbol spots become a neutral meeting point. It’s important to note these spots will not be monitored 24 hours a day. This means there will be no police intervention, such as mediation or witnessing a transaction. In contrast, they will have available officers on the scene if a call or complaint is made to the city regarding a criminal matter. The area will be well-lit and conveniently located just off the highway.
Holiday Shopping
With the holidays upon us, things become even more hectic, and people often stop looking into all the transaction details. The handshake symbol spots have been developed in tandem with the holidays. Steph Neufeld, the safety unit’s captain, says, “The local launch of Project Safe Trade comes at an ideal time with the busy holiday season upon us. Online property transactions are ever-increasing and the UOV OPP is proud to be launching a community safety initiative aimed at decreasing offences related to online marketplace transactions,” He continues in the statement, “Collaborative approaches like Project Safe Trade can help to reduce harm and victimization in our communities.”
Going Beyond the Handshake Symbol
The handshake symbol parking lots are a great start, but there is more the city has incorporated into the project. In particular, one Canadian resident and professional. Carmi Levy, a technology analyst, offers helpful hints. While seemingly obvious, they can be forgotten during an overwhelming time like the holidays.
Levy said, “Do your due diligence on the person that claims to be selling it. Look into their background, see what other things they’ve sold, look for information on how other buyers have dealt with them in the past.” Also suggesting people, “Insist on seeing the actual device that you’re buying before you hand over any money. Insist that they power it on. Insist that you make sure it works before you pay for it.” This is a great way to avoid being scammed and wasting your hard-earned money on something that just isn’t worth it.
Other Safety Suggestions
Other recommendations include going with someone you know and trust when engaging in online transactions. Save all interactions between buyer and seller, this includes voicemails, emails, or text messages. Additionally, shopping apps like ‘OfferUp’ and ‘LetGo’ tell you they won’t reach out for personal information. They suggest you use caution when doling out personal information with limited or only necessary information.
Furthermore, they suggest that you have those conversations strictly in the app. This ensures the conversation is logged in a secure environment so you can avoid giving your personal information to a stranger. For Canadian residents, specific to the Pembroke area, seeking handshake symbol parking lots can keep citizens safe this holiday season. Moreover, they can help bring higher levels of safety in years to come.
My Entitled Daughter-in-Law Demanded That I Retire – My Son Gave Her a Reality Check
Hi there, I’m Nora, and if you told me a week ago I’d be venting on the internet about my family drama, I would have laughed. But here I am, a private school teacher with 13 years under my belt, caught up in a pickle that sounds straight out of a daytime drama.
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I’ve been teaching at a small, tight-knit school where I know every kid by name because we have only one class per grade. It’s a special place, really, far better than the nearby public schools, which, to be honest, aren’t great.
I plan to retire in about five years, give or take, content with my quiet life and looking forward to restful golden years. Now, onto the juicy part of this saga: my relationship with my daughter-in-law, Christine.
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To put it mildly, we’re not exactly chummy. At family gatherings, we orbit each other like distant planets, exchanging polite nods more out of necessity than desire. Civility, that’s our unspoken agreement.
But last week, Christine dropped a bombshell that could have made headlines in our family’s newsletter, if we had one. It turns out, my adorable grandson Joey is set to start school next fall, and guess what? He’ll be landing right in my class.
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You’d think that’d make things simple, right? Nope, Christine had other plans. She cornered me one evening and demanded, yes, demanded, that I retire! “It was your plan anyway,” she said, her tone sharp as a tack. “A couple of years won’t change anything.”
I was gobsmacked! The audacity floored me so much I couldn’t muster a single word in response. Over the next few days, she didn’t let up. Every chance she got, she started arguments, trying to corner me into agreeing to retire sooner. It was relentless.
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Just when I thought I’d have to cave, my son David stepped in. Ah, David, always the peacekeeper. He’d been watching this drama unfold and had cooked up a plan to give Christine the reality check she clearly needed.
So, David had been pretty quiet about his plan, but boy, did he make a splash when he put it into action. That day, as Christine strolled into the house, her eyes nearly popped out of her head.
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There she saw David, Joey, and a young lady I hadn’t met before, all huddled around a book on the living room couch. The scene was so calm and focused, it was like they were in their little bubble.
Christine, looking like she’d just walked into a surprise party meant for someone else, asked in a bewildered tone, “David, what’s going on here?”
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David, bless him, didn’t miss a beat. He was as calm as a cucumber when he said, “I’ve decided that Joey will be taking private lessons at home. Since you’re uncomfortable with him being in my mother’s class, this is the only viable solution. We’ll be hiring private tutors for all his subjects.”
Christine blinked a few times, obviously trying to process this new arrangement. David wasn’t done yet, though.
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He continued, “This means we’ll need to redirect our finances to cover the cost of his education. It’s quite expensive, so we’ll have to cut back on our vacations, restaurant dates, and even our clothing budget. Essentials only from now on.”
“Also, since we’ll be economizing, we’ll need to cut back on takeout, which means more cooking at home for you.” The weight of his words seemed to slowly sink in as Christine’s face fell.
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She started to argue, her voice tinged with desperation, “But that’s unnecessary! Can’t we just reconsider this?”
David, however, stood firm. He stressed the importance of Joey’s education and maintaining a peaceful family environment, not letting Christine’s objections sway him. “It’s important we do this the right way,” he insisted.
After the storm settled a bit and Christine had a few days to mull things over, something seemed to click in her.
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Maybe it was seeing David going to such lengths to sort out Joey’s education, or perhaps the realization of what her demands had been doing to everyone.
Whatever it was, the change was clear and somewhat surprising. One quiet evening, she approached me, something akin to humility in her eyes—a look I wasn’t accustomed to seeing on her.
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“I’m sorry for the trouble I caused,” she admitted, her voice soft, reflecting a genuine sense of remorse. “I didn’t realize the pressure I was putting on everyone, including you. I hope we can find a way to move forward from here.”
Hearing those words from Christine, well, it felt like a breeze after a stifling heatwave. I appreciated her coming forward to apologize; it wasn’t easy and it showed a willingness to mend fences. “Of course,” I replied, “let’s move forward, for Joey’s sake.”
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So, as the next school year rolled around, Joey started attending the private school as we had originally planned. The air between Christine and me had shifted.
It wasn’t like we were about to become best friends, but there was a newfound civility, a professional courtesy almost. We both understood that whatever our differences, Joey’s well-being was the priority. It wasn’t perfect by any means, but it was a start.
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The school year was off to its usual bustling start, but little did I know, a small unexpected moment was about to ease some of the tension between Christine and me.
About a month in, Joey, my grandson, won a class art contest—a little victory, but a big deal for him. Proud as ever, I set up a display of his artwork in the classroom, a colorful testament to his creativity.
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One afternoon, as Christine came to pick Joey up, something unusual happened. She paused—a rare break in her usually brisk pace. Her eyes landed on the display, and a softness appeared on her face that I hadn’t seen before.
“Joey did this?” she asked, her voice mixing surprise with a hint of pride.
“Yes, he’s quite talented,” I replied, seizing the chance to maybe, just maybe, bridge the gap between us a bit more. “He’s been very enthusiastic about art. It’s wonderful to see him express himself so creatively.”
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There was a moment, just a heartbeat or two, where Christine looked from the artwork back to me. I saw something in her eyes then—maybe gratitude, maybe a reassessment of old judgments. “Thank you,” she murmured, “for encouraging him.”
That small exchange felt like a window opening after a long time closed. From that day on, our interactions took on a slightly warmer tone.
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Christine began to inquire more about Joey’s day-to-day activities, showing a genuine interest beyond mere pleasantries. She even volunteered for a class event, which, believe me, was a surprise to all of us.
As the months rolled by, Joey flourished. Not just in his artwork, but academically and socially too. Every day, he seemed to come home with a new story, a new success, a new friend.
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Seeing him thrive like this, I felt a deep reassurance about my decision to stay on as his teacher. It was proof that despite the personal challenges, my professional integrity and dedication to these kids could make a real difference.
By the end of the school year, while Christine and I hadn’t exactly turned into friends, there was mutual respect, cemented by our shared commitment to Joey’s wellbeing.
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It wasn’t a perfect resolution—life seldom offers those—but it was a functional truce, a testament to the compromises we’re willing to make for the sake of the children we love.
Looking back, what began as a standoff that might have ripped our family apart, turned into a journey of understanding and compromise.
It showed me that sometimes, it’s the little things—like a child’s artwork—that can bridge the biggest divides. So, here we are, not perfect, but a family that’s learning, growing, and, most importantly, sticking together.
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