I Thought My Parents Arranged a Surprise Party to Celebrate My Graduation, but the Reality Left Me Speechless

I Thought My Parents Arranged a Surprise Party to Celebrate My Graduation, but the Reality Left Me Speechless

Growing up in the shadow of her older sister’s achievements, Martha never imagined the night of her biggest triumph would be eclipsed by an unexpected engagement. But in the aftermath of hurt and rivalry, a journey of self-discovery and healing began.

Since we were kids, my sister, Mia, and I have been in this silent competition, thanks to our parents. She’s three years older than me, so she always hit those big milestones first. And every time she did, it was a huge celebration. My achievements? Not so much.

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Two different sisters | Source: Pexels

I remember when Mia graduated from college. Our parents threw a huge party. There were balloons, streamers, and a big banner that said, “Congratulations!” They even rented a hall for the after-party. I was proud of her, but I also felt a bit jealous. Would I ever get the same kind of recognition?

Three days ago, I graduated with my master’s degree. It was a tough journey though sleepless nights, endless research papers, and a lot of stress. But I did it. I was excited to share this moment with my family.

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Woman throwing graduation hats | Source: Pexels

My parents had been acting secretive, dropping hints about a surprise celebration. They told me they would come home early and that I could hang out with friends and Mia for a bit. But they made sure we would be home at a specific time. They even sent texts to remind us, which made me even more excited.

As we pulled up to the house, my heart was racing. The driveway was packed with cars, and I felt a surge of happiness. Maybe this time, it was my turn to be celebrated. Mia and I exchanged glances, and she gave me a reassuring smile.

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Back shot of woman driving | Source: Pexels

We walked to the front door, and I could hear faint murmurs from inside. I took a deep breath and reached for the doorknob. My hand trembled slightly as I turned it.

The door swung open, and my excitement quickly turned to confusion. The room was filled with candles, flowers, and balloons.

But instead of celebrating my graduation, everyone was focused on Mia’s boyfriend, who was down on one knee with a ring in his hand. Our parents stood nearby, beaming with pride and excitement.

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Marriage proposal | Source: Pexels

“Will you marry me, Mia?” he asked, his voice trembling with emotion.

Mia gasped, covering her mouth with her hands. “Yes! Yes, I will!”

Everyone cheered, and I forced a smile, clapping along with them. Inside, I felt that familiar sting. The same feeling I’ve had for as long as I can remember. I was never quite enough in our parents’ eyes.

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People celebrating | Source: Pexels

I joined the celebration, trying my best to look happy. I hugged Mia and congratulated her, even though my heart wasn’t in it. Our parents were over the moon, showering her with praise and attention. I stood on the sidelines, feeling like an afterthought.

As the evening wore on, I found myself drifting through the party, smiling and nodding at the right moments, but my mind was elsewhere. I thought about all the times I had worked so hard, only to have my achievements overshadowed by Mia’s. It wasn’t her fault, but it still hurt.

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Wedding cake | Source: Pexels

When it was finally time to cut the cake, my parents called everyone into the dining room. The cake was beautiful, decorated with flowers and a tiny engagement ring on top. I watched as Mia and her fiancé cut the first slice, everyone around them cheering and taking photos.

I felt a lump in my throat and excused myself, needing a moment alone. I wandered through the house, memories of past celebrations swirling in my mind. Each one was a reminder of how I had always been in Mia’s shadow.

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Celebration | Source: Pexels

Later that night, as the celebration continued, I slipped out onto the back porch. The cool night air was a welcome relief from the crowded house. I needed a moment to gather my thoughts.

That night, after the initial excitement had settled and everyone had gone to bed, my sister knocked on my door. She stepped inside and closed the door behind her, sitting down next to me on my bed.

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Two sisters hugging | Source: Pexels

“I’m sorry,” she began, her voice soft and sincere. “I didn’t know they were going to do this today. I wanted your graduation to be your moment.”

I looked at her, the frustration and hurt I felt bubbling to the surface. “It’s not your fault. I’m happy for you, really. It’s just… I worked so hard for this degree, and it feels like they don’t see me.”

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Sisters leaning on a pillar | Source: Pexels

She nodded, understanding flashing in her eyes. “I get it. Growing up, it always felt like we were in this unspoken competition, and it wasn’t fair to either of us. I love you, and I’ve always been proud of you, even if Mom and Dad didn’t always show it.”

Hearing those words from her was a balm to my wounded heart. “I love you too,” I said, tears welling up in my eyes. “I guess I just wanted them to see me the way they see you.”

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Black and white photo of sisters hugging | Source: Pexels

She hugged me tightly, and in that moment, the years of rivalry and comparison seemed to melt away. “You’re amazing,” she whispered. “And you don’t need their validation to prove it.”

The next morning, I woke up feeling a mix of emotions. My sister’s words from the night before had planted a seed of realization in my mind. It wasn’t about competing with her or seeking our parents’ approval. It was about recognizing my own worth and achievements for what they were.

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Middle-aged couple has breakfast | Source: Pexels

I decided to talk to my parents. I found them in the kitchen, preparing breakfast and still glowing from the previous night’s excitement.

“Can we talk?” I asked, my voice steady but firm.

They looked at each other, a bit surprised, and nodded. We sat down at the table, and I took a deep breath.

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Serious brown-eyed woman | Source: Pexels

“I’m really happy for my sister and her engagement,” I began. “But I need to tell you how I feel. Yesterday was supposed to be a celebration of my hard work and achievements. Instead, it turned into something else, and it hurt.”

My parents exchanged glances, the realization dawning on them. “We didn’t mean to overshadow your accomplishment,” my mom said, reaching out to take my hand. “We’re so proud of you, but we got caught up in the excitement of the proposal.”

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Happy senior couple | Source: Pexels

My dad nodded in agreement. “We should have done things differently. We’re sorry.”

Their apologies were sincere, and for the first time, I felt like they were truly seeing me. It wasn’t just about this one event—it was about a lifetime of feeling like I was living in my sister’s shadow. I knew it would take time, but this conversation was a step toward healing.

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Serious woman looking to the side | Source: Pexels

In the weeks that followed, I focused on celebrating my own achievements. I threw a small party with friends, basking in the recognition and support from those who had been there for me all along. My relationship with my sister grew stronger as we both worked to support each other, rather than compete.

The experience taught me a valuable lesson about self-worth and the importance of seeking validation from within.

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Happy family breakfast | Source: Pexels

It reminded me that my journey is unique and deserves to be celebrated, no matter what. And most importantly, it showed me that true success isn’t measured by comparisons, but by personal growth and fulfillment.

Carly Simon finally says who “You’re So Vain” is written about, confirms what we knew all along

With two successful albums in the span of only nine months, Simon soon found herself solidified as a famous and immensely popular singer/songwriter. In 1971, she received a Grammy Award for Best New Artist of the Year, and additionally one nomination in the “Best Pop Female Vocalist” category.

Carly Simon – “You’re So Vain”

In November of 1972, Carly Simon released her third album, and it was intended to be her big commercial breakthrough. No Secrets spent five weeks at No. 1 on the US Billboard 200 chart and quickly achieved gold status.

It was a great album that spread all over the world, spending weeks and weeks on the top of the charts in countries like Norway, Australia and Canada. But it was one song in particular – the third on the album – that would change her life forever.

You’re So Vain was the song that most people reference when talking of Carly Simon. It was a smash-hit right away, and throughout the years, it’s grown even bigger and bigger.

The song is currently ranked at No. 92 on Billboard‘s Greatest Songs of All-Time list. In 2014, it was voted as number as no 216 when Recording Industry Association of America (RIAA) asked the question of the best songs of the century. That same year, it was crowned as the ultimate song of the 1970’s by the UK Official Charts Company.

Carly Simon No Secrets

The album was recorded at the famous Trident Studios in London, England, where bands like The Beatles recorded The White Album and David Bowie made Space Oddity.

You’re So Vain – recording

You’re So Vain also held plenty of secrets when it was released, and for many years it was the subject of one of rock ‘n’ roll’s biggest mysteries. But we’ll get to that soon.

Firstly, Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger is uncredited on the song, even though he sings on the chorus.

At the time of the recording, several other famous artists were at the Trident Studios, and the likes of Paul McCartney, Linda McCartney, legendary record producer George Martin, and Harry Nilsson watched her record. Actually, McCartney himself pitched in to guest star with background vocals.

And then there was Mick Jagger. Carly Simon wrote in her memoir that he actually invited himself to the recording. Jagger had pursued her in London and called Trident Studios once he understood she was there.

“It was shortly after midnight. Mick and I, we were close together – the same height, same coloring, same lips,” Simon writes.

“I felt as if I was trying to stay within a pink gravity that was starting to loosen its silky grip on me. I was thrilled by the proximity, remembering all the times I had spent imitating him in front of my closet mirror.”

Carly SImon
Wikipedia

As mentioned, You’re So Vain was a rock ‘n’ roll mystery. It’s always fun to know the background story of a song, wether its about a certain event, a person, or if that one line is a reference for something special.

You’re So Vain – who is it about?

In Carly Simon’s case, no one knew who You’re So Vain was about.

Some guessed – and had conspiracy theories – that the song was about Mick Jagger. Sure, there was a pretty clear connection between the two, especially since he actually sang on the record.

But no, it turns out the rumours were wrong. The truth is that You’re So Vain – at least the second verse – is about one-time Hollywood lothario Warren Beatty, whom she dated briefly in the early 1970’s.

“You had me several years ago when I was still quite naive.
Well you said that we made such a pretty pair.

And that you would never leave.
But you gave away the things you loved and one of them was me.
I had some dreams, they were clouds in my coffee.

Clouds in my coffee”.

In her memoir, Carly revealed that the song was also about two other people, but she won’t reveal who they were.

“I don’t think so,” she told People. “At least until they know it’s about them.”

“Probably, if we were sitting over at dinner and I said: ‘remember that time you walked into the party and…’ I don’t know if I’ll do it. I never thought I would admit that it was more than one person.”

Carly Simon
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Simon dated Warren Beatty for a short while in the ’70s, and described him as a “glorious specimen” who put all other men “to shame, if looks and charm were what you were after.”

Carly Simon – James Taylor

So what about Carly Simon’s love life besides Warren? Well, she’s been married once, to singer/songwriter James Taylor.

They had met briefly as children, and then again in her dressing room in 1971. She described the latter meeting in her book. Taylor was there together with his then-girlfriend Joni Mitchell.

“He was barefoot, long-legged, long-footed – and is knees were bent,” she wrote in her memoir.

”He wore dark red, loose, wide-wale corduroys and a long-sleeved Henley with one button open, his right hand clutching a self-rule cigarette. His hair, simultaneously shiny and disheveled, fell evenly on both sides of his head, and he wore a scruffy, understated mustache, the kind so fashionable back in the yearly 1970s. He seemed both kempt and unkempt. Even sprawled out on the floor, everything about him communicated that he was, in fact, the center of something – the core of an apple, the center of a note.”

James Taylor
Wikipedia

Carly Simon and James Taylor started dating later the same year and tied the knot in November of 1972. 11 years later, the couple divorced, but it wasn’t just because they didn’t have the same love for each other anymore.

Carly Simon – children

Simon explained that it mostly had to do with drugs. They had two children, now grown up and working in the music business. Daughter Sally Taylor is 46 years old and Ben Taylor’s 43.

Her memoir Boys in the Trees pretty much ends with her marriage to James Taylor. Her son hasn’t read the book. But her daughter has.

“I think he would feel more conflicted than Sally did,” Simon told ABC in 2016. “I had told her almost everything, but when she read it all together, she was just so amazed. She said, ‘I’m so proud of you for being able to tell it like it is for you.’”

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Carly Simon was later engaged to musician Russ Kunkel in 1985. She married writer James Hart in December 1987, but the couple divorced in 2007.

Carly Simon, now 75 years of age, continued making music for many years to come. And, as a by-product, continued to win several awards for her trophy cabinet.

Her 1977 worldwide hit Nobody Does It Better was the theme song of the Bond movie The Spy Who Loved Me. It’s considered by many to be one of the greatest Bond anthems of all time.

Hall of Fame entry

In 1988, she released the song Let The River Run, first featured in the 1988 movie Working Girl. With the song, she became the first singer ever to win three major awards for a single track: an Academy Award, a Grammy and a Golden Globe.

Six years later, in 1994, Carly was inducted into the Songwriters Hall of Fame.

Carly Simon lived a happy life during the 1960s and 1970s. She sure is a legendary singer with a legacy that will live on forever.

Thank you for all the wonderful music, Carly, and we hope to hear more in the future.

Please, share this story with friends and family!

When Carly Simon wrote the song You’re So Vain, her career changed forever, and yet the song remains one of rock ‘n’ roll’s biggest mysteries. Who is the person Simon is singing about?

Well, Carly herself has revealed who the classic song is about.

The 1970’s sure was a time for great music. During the 1960’s, bands like The Beatles had conquered the world, and now it was time for the likes of Bob Dylan and others to take over.

Carly Simon – singer/songwriter

One of those who did just that was Carly Simon. The wonderful singer/songwriter became one of the most popular artists when her career began to grow in the early 1970’s.

We’ve all heard You’re so Vain and various other classics from the New Yorker. But what about her life? And who was You’re so Vain actually about? This is the story of the wonderful Carly Simon.

Carly Simon was born on June 25, 1945, in New York City, the youngest daughter of an upper-class New York family. Her father Richard Simon was the co-founder of the Simon & Schuster publishing company.

Carly Simon – childhood

Now, Carly’s childhood wasn’t exactly perfect. As a third daughter, she often felt inadequate. Did her parents really want her?

“After two daughters he’d been counting on a son, a male successor to be named Carl. When I was born, he and Mommy simply added a y to the word, like an accusing chromosome: Carly,” she said.

When she was just 7 or 8 years old, Carly experienced a string of disturbing sexual encounters with a teenage boy.

“I didn’t realize that I was being used,” she said in an interview with USA Today. “I thought of myself as being in love with him. I’m sure a lot of girls go through the same thing.”

As a young girl, Carly got to see what the music industry was all about. But it would be some time before she would become the sensation she was.

Simon split her time between her family’s townhouse in Greenwich Village, New York and a wonderful estate in Stamford, Connecticut. The estate in Stamford saw the young girl surrounded by celebrities like Albert Einstein and Eleanor Roosevelt.

Carly Simon
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The Simon family were also good friends of legendary baseball player Jackie Robinson, who soon would take Carly under his wing. Jackie Robinson and his family lived in the Stamford house while their own home was under construction.

Befriended Jackie Robinson

She got to sit in the dugout at the old Ebbets Field in Brooklyn – home of the then-Brooklyn Dodgers. Soon, she became the unofficial mascot of the team.

“Jackie even taught me how to bat lefty, though it never took”, Simon wrote in her memoir Boys in the Trees (2015).

“He always had the cutest look around the side of his mouth, as if he were thinking about what he was about to say before he said it.”

However, the family would go through a tragedy. Simon’s father was strong-armed out of his own company, and died in 1960, just before his daughter’s 16th birthday.

For her part, Carly showed an early interest in music. She started singing together with brother Joey – who later became a successful writer, writing the music for the Broadway show The Secret Garden – but later, it was her and her sister who would go on to pursue a career in the business.

As Carly wrote on her website, she and sister Lucy taught themselves three chords on the guitar and hitch-hiked up to Provincetown, MA in the summer of 1964.

Carly Simon
Youtube/Carly Simon

The Simon Sisters – as they called themselves – sang at a local bar called The Moors, with a repertoar consisting of folk music, as well as some of their own songs.

Touring with sister Lucy

Carly Simon and Lucy were eventually signed to Kapp Records and played a couple of clubs in Greenwich Village, opening for early comedians Woody Allen and Dick Cavett, among others, and even played in the UK.
In her memoir, Simon recalls the boat trip across the Atlantic heading home.

They were on the same boat as Sean Connery, and Carly and her sister ended up spending the trip with the actor. At that point, of course, no one could realize or even imagine that Carly would write a Bond theme song 12 years later.

The sister duo released three albums in the 1960s before Lucy left to get married.

Carly Simon
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Carly Simon was on her own, but still determined to forge a career in the music industry. However, her career had a slow start. She started working as a summer-camp counselor and as a secretary on a TV show

Carly’s career

In February of 1971, Simon released her debut album Carly Simon. The song That’s the Way I’ve Always Heard It Should Be – an anti-marriage-song – became her first hit, reaching No. 10 on the Billboard Hot 100 list.

In October, later the same year, Simon released her second album, Anticipation. By now, things had really started to blow up. Her album went gold in two years and contained the smash hit Anticipation, which peaked at No. 13 on the Billboard pop singles chart and also at No. 3 on the Billboard Adult Contemporary chart in the United States.

According to herself, Simon wrote the song in just 15 minutes while waiting for Cat Stevens at her place, whom she was dating at the time and had made dinner for. When he arrived, the song was ready, but the date only lasted a short while.

“He gave me whispers and drawings of Blake poems,” Carly Simon said. “He told me about his childhood, his mixed Greek and Swedish parents, and we made a connection that has lasted.”

With two successful albums in the span of only nine months, Simon soon found herself solidified as a famous and immensely popular singer/songwriter. In 1971, she received a Grammy Award for Best New Artist of the Year, and additionally one nomination in the “Best Pop Female Vocalist” category.

Carly Simon – “You’re So Vain”

In November of 1972, Carly Simon released her third album, and it was intended to be her big commercial breakthrough. No Secrets spent five weeks at No. 1 on the US Billboard 200 chart and quickly achieved gold status.

It was a great album that spread all over the world, spending weeks and weeks on the top of the charts in countries like Norway, Australia and Canada. But it was one song in particular – the third on the album – that would change her life forever.

You’re So Vain was the song that most people reference when talking of Carly Simon. It was a smash-hit right away, and throughout the years, it’s grown even bigger and bigger.

The song is currently ranked at No. 92 on Billboard‘s Greatest Songs of All-Time list. In 2014, it was voted as number as no 216 when Recording Industry Association of America (RIAA) asked the question of the best songs of the century. That same year, it was crowned as the ultimate song of the 1970’s by the UK Official Charts Company.

Carly Simon No Secrets

The album was recorded at the famous Trident Studios in London, England, where bands like The Beatles recorded The White Album and David Bowie made Space Oddity.

You’re So Vain – recording

You’re So Vain also held plenty of secrets when it was released, and for many years it was the subject of one of rock ‘n’ roll’s biggest mysteries. But we’ll get to that soon.

Firstly, Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger is uncredited on the song, even though he sings on the chorus.

At the time of the recording, several other famous artists were at the Trident Studios, and the likes of Paul McCartney, Linda McCartney, legendary record producer George Martin, and Harry Nilsson watched her record. Actually, McCartney himself pitched in to guest star with background vocals.

And then there was Mick Jagger. Carly Simon wrote in her memoir that he actually invited himself to the recording. Jagger had pursued her in London and called Trident Studios once he understood she was there.

“It was shortly after midnight. Mick and I, we were close together – the same height, same coloring, same lips,” Simon writes.

“I felt as if I was trying to stay within a pink gravity that was starting to loosen its silky grip on me. I was thrilled by the proximity, remembering all the times I had spent imitating him in front of my closet mirror.”

Carly SImon
Wikipedia

As mentioned, You’re So Vain was a rock ‘n’ roll mystery. It’s always fun to know the background story of a song, wether its about a certain event, a person, or if that one line is a reference for something special.

You’re So Vain – who is it about?

In Carly Simon’s case, no one knew who You’re So Vain was about.

Some guessed – and had conspiracy theories – that the song was about Mick Jagger. Sure, there was a pretty clear connection between the two, especially since he actually sang on the record.

But no, it turns out the rumours were wrong. The truth is that You’re So Vain – at least the second verse – is about one-time Hollywood lothario Warren Beatty, whom she dated briefly in the early 1970’s.

“You had me several years ago when I was still quite naive.
Well you said that we made such a pretty pair.

And that you would never leave.
But you gave away the things you loved and one of them was me.
I had some dreams, they were clouds in my coffee.

Clouds in my coffee”.

In her memoir, Carly revealed that the song was also about two other people, but she won’t reveal who they were.

“I don’t think so,” she told People. “At least until they know it’s about them.”

“Probably, if we were sitting over at dinner and I said: ‘remember that time you walked into the party and…’ I don’t know if I’ll do it. I never thought I would admit that it was more than one person.”

Carly Simon
Shutterstock

Simon dated Warren Beatty for a short while in the ’70s, and described him as a “glorious specimen” who put all other men “to shame, if looks and charm were what you were after.”

Carly Simon – James Taylor

So what about Carly Simon’s love life besides Warren? Well, she’s been married once, to singer/songwriter James Taylor.

They had met briefly as children, and then again in her dressing room in 1971. She described the latter meeting in her book. Taylor was there together with his then-girlfriend Joni Mitchell.

“He was barefoot, long-legged, long-footed – and is knees were bent,” she wrote in her memoir.

”He wore dark red, loose, wide-wale corduroys and a long-sleeved Henley with one button open, his right hand clutching a self-rule cigarette. His hair, simultaneously shiny and disheveled, fell evenly on both sides of his head, and he wore a scruffy, understated mustache, the kind so fashionable back in the yearly 1970s. He seemed both kempt and unkempt. Even sprawled out on the floor, everything about him communicated that he was, in fact, the center of something – the core of an apple, the center of a note.”

James Taylor
Wikipedia

Carly Simon and James Taylor started dating later the same year and tied the knot in November of 1972. 11 years later, the couple divorced, but it wasn’t just because they didn’t have the same love for each other anymore.

Carly Simon – children

Simon explained that it mostly had to do with drugs. They had two children, now grown up and working in the music business. Daughter Sally Taylor is 46 years old and Ben Taylor’s 43.

Her memoir Boys in the Trees pretty much ends with her marriage to James Taylor. Her son hasn’t read the book. But her daughter has.

“I think he would feel more conflicted than Sally did,” Simon told ABC in 2016. “I had told her almost everything, but when she read it all together, she was just so amazed. She said, ‘I’m so proud of you for being able to tell it like it is for you.’”

Carly Simon
Shutterstock

Carly Simon was later engaged to musician Russ Kunkel in 1985. She married writer James Hart in December 1987, but the couple divorced in 2007.

Carly Simon, now 75 years of age, continued making music for many years to come. And, as a by-product, continued to win several awards for her trophy cabinet.

Her 1977 worldwide hit Nobody Does It Better was the theme song of the Bond movie The Spy Who Loved Me. It’s considered by many to be one of the greatest Bond anthems of all time.

Hall of Fame entry

In 1988, she released the song Let The River Run, first featured in the 1988 movie Working Girl. With the song, she became the first singer ever to win three major awards for a single track: an Academy Award, a Grammy and a Golden Globe.

Six years later, in 1994, Carly was inducted into the Songwriters Hall of Fame.

Carly Simon lived a happy life during the 1960s and 1970s. She sure is a legendary singer with a legacy that will live on forever.

Thank you for all the wonderful music, Carly, and we hope to hear more in the future.

Please, share this story with friends and family!

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