When Millie Smith and Lewis Cann found out they were expecting a baby, they were overjoyed. As there was a history of twins in Millie’s family, she had a strong feeling that she was going to give birth to two little ones, and her instincts were right. The ultrasound confirmed that she was indeed expecting twins, but the doctors told them that one of the babies had a very small chance of survival.
ragically, one of their daughters was born at 30 weeks with anencephaly, a serious condition that affects the development of the brain and spinal cord. They learned that their precious baby had only moments or hours to live.
Knowing this, Millie and Lewis wanted to give her a name before they said goodbye. They chose the name Skye. Millie explained: “We felt she needed a name before she arrived. Knowing she wouldn’t be with us for long, I wanted her to have a name in those fleeting moments”.
The name “Skye” symbolized a connection to a place they could always remember when they looked up to the sky. “We held Skye close as she died. It was the most heartbreaking moment of our lives, but I’m proud that she fought to spend that time with us.” Skye only lived for three hours, a brief time filled with love while her parents cherished her beauty and presence.
After her death, Millie and Lewis were supported by a “bereavement midwife” and given access to a “Daisy Room”, a special room where parents could spend time with their baby before and after death. However, after Skye was gone, her memory seemed to fade; no one spoke of her, leaving Millie feeling like her daughter had never existed, which made her angry.
“Most of the nurses knew what had happened, but as the weeks went by, people stopped mentioning Skye. Other families around me had no idea about our loss”, Millie recalls.
While her other daughter, Callie, was still in the NICU, another mother who knew nothing about Millie’s situation remarked how lucky she was not to have twins. “None of the other parents knew about Skye, and that innocent comment almost broke me. I left the room in tears but didn’t have the heart to explain”, Millie said. “A simple sticker could have prevented this.”
This experience inspired Millie to design a sticker for incubators to mark the loss of one or more babies in a multiple birth. She chose butterflies to symbolise the ‘flown away’ babies and used the colour purple, which is suitable for any gender.
From this idea grew the Skye High Foundation, which promotes the Purple Butterflies initiative and helps raise awareness in hospitals around the world. The foundation also offers a range of purple butterfly merchandise.
“Although I can’t prevent these situations from occurring, I believe the more support we can provide through initiatives like the stickers, the better it will be for others who suffer this loss. It’s an incredibly tough journey”, said Millie. Today, her surviving daughter Callie is seven years old.
After this situation, my life split into “before” and “after.”
The most frugal person in the world was my granddad. After he d!ed, he gave me a $30 gift card. I decided to use it rather than give it away for whatever reason. My life had periods before and after that incident. The checker’s face went white when I handed her the card. Cashier: Where did you acquire that? That’s not feasible.
Me: Well, It belonged to my grandfather. “STOP EVERYONE!” said the cashier. Our store has been holding a secret contest for ten years, and the winner is IN FRONT OF US! Telling the customer that the gift card was a unique promotional item with a million-dollar prize that had been unused for years made the cashier quite happy. The store manager walked over to confirm what I already knew to be true, and I stood there in disbelief. My grandpa’s “stingy” present became a fortune that abruptly altered my entire life and my prospects. The story’s lesson is that being a cheapskate implies you like to maximize every dollar. However, there are occasions when it feels good to treat the people you care about with your hard-earned cash. Spending a lot of money is not necessary. Giving them a treat or the lovely present they’ve always desired is a great way to let them know you care.
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