Most adults know that being a grown-up isn’t as simple as it seems to a child.
Kids might see things like food in the fridge, a comfy home, and unlimited internet, but they often don’t understand the work it takes to have those things. One mom decided to teach her disrespectful son a funny, “real world” lesson to show him that “nothing comes for free.”
In 2015, Heidi Johnson was struggling with her defiant 13-year-old son, Aaron. She explained that Aaron “wanted the benefits of growing up without the responsibility that comes with it.”
Aaron had started making a little bit of money as a YouTuber and thought he didn’t have to follow his mom’s rules about doing his homework. He even stormed out of her room, saying he was a “free person” because he was “making money.”
In response to his behavior, the single mother wrote a “tough love” letter to Aaron and shared it on Facebook. Almost ten years later, her post has gone viral again.
Johnson’s note begins, “Since you seem to have forgotten that you’re only 13, and I’m the parent, and that you don’t want to be controlled, I guess you need a lesson in independence.” In what she called a “roommate contract,” she laid out the rules Aaron would need to follow if he wanted to act like an adult.
She continued, “Since you’re earning money now, it should be easier for you to pay back for everything I’ve bought for you.” Johnson added that if he wanted things like his lamp, lightbulbs, or access to the internet, he’d have to pay his part of the costs.
In her letter, Johnson listed the conditions Aaron would need to follow, including paying for rent and utilities. She also expected him to cook his own meals and help with regular cleaning around the house.
Johnson signed the letter, “Love, Mom.”
Taking Action
Living in Venice, Italy, Johnson shared that when Aaron saw the letter taped to his door, he crumpled it up, threw it on the floor, and stormed out of their apartment.
Johnson felt he just needed some time to think—and she used that time to start taking back some of the things from his room.
Once Aaron had time to think, he asked his mom what he could do to start re-earning his privileges. He even gathered more items from his room and handed them to her, asking how he could earn them back.
Johnson explained that this was never about making him pay her back; it was about teaching him to understand the cost of things. Aaron quickly realized he couldn’t afford rent, utilities, or food on his own.
Online commenters supported her approach, praising her for her creative discipline style. One person wrote, “Great job! Nothing in the agreement is harsh, but it will teach him a lesson he’ll remember.” Another said, “You’re an amazing mom for giving your son a chance to learn and grow.” A third comment added, “Bravo for being a parent and not just a maid.”
Some people accused her of publicly shaming her son. In response, Johnson wrote another post saying she was “not ashamed” of what she did.
“A teenager will push their limits,” she explained. “They’re in a stage where they’re stepping into adulthood but still rooted in childhood… I can’t send this child into college or the workforce with an attitude of ‘I’ll get to it when I feel like it’ when a boss asks him to get a job done. That’s how the real world works.”
Johnson ended by saying, “Nothing in life is free. Somewhere, someone is making a sacrifice.”
Howie Mandel opens up on his condition
On “The Kelly Clarkson Show,” Mandel discussed his struggles with mental illness. He confessed that his celebrity status had a negative impact on his mental health, not a positive one.
From the outside, he sometimes seems cheerful, but when he’s at home, especially alone, he stated that’s not the case.
When Kelly Clarkson heard this, she was shocked. Mandel then acknowledged, “I’m heavily medicated.” Clarkson found it hard to comprehend that someone would make derogatory remarks about her.
Since he was a young child, Howard Stern has battled anxiety and OCD. He has said that he has had these ailments for almost his entire life.
Because he didn’t have any classmates to make friends with when he was younger, he was labeled “strange.” Though he believes he gets paid to be strange, he now finds that every day is a struggle. America’s Got Talent has Stern on the panel as a judge.
Mandel claims to be experiencing a nightmare and tries to ground himself. He has a lovely family and enjoys his work, yet he can also experience deep sadness from which he cannot recover.
He shared a lot of worry during the COVID-19 epidemic because he always has the thought, “We could die,” running through his head. But the fact that everyone in his immediate vicinity was okay would comfort him. But the world as a whole was in horrible shape [during the pandemic].
Up until 2006, Mandel kept his illnesses a secret from the public. He was ashamed and concerned that if his instability were discovered, he wouldn’t be able to obtain employment.
Mandel’s initial concern was that he had let his family down, but he later understood that if it was discovered that he wasn’t stable, he might not be employed.
Howie Mandel, the comedian, has struggled with severe depression for a long time. Mandel acknowledges that, even though he still experiences dark and terrible periods, the general public may not fully understand the severity of his depression.
Like other comedians, he utilizes comedy to deal with his disability. He claims that comedy saved him, and he feels most at ease performing.
Mandel claimed that he is now coming forth about his struggles with mental illness because he wants to end the stigma.
He is aware that enduring all of this will not be simple, but he has faith that despite his difficulties, he will continue to treasure the times when his life is not shadowed by darkness.
Mandel is aware that some people find his battles with mental illness amusing, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t terrible for him.
Despite his obstacles, he is optimistic that he can end the stigma associated with mental health issues. It won’t be simple for him to keep his mental health, but he wants to.
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