I always believed I had created a solid, independent life for myself and my daughter, Megan. I’d worked hard for years to establish a good job, a comfortable home by the sea, and raise her on my own. In quiet moments, I felt a lack of companionship or someone to share life’s burdens with.
That night, I had planned a special supper only for Megan and me. I prepared the table, lit the candles, and waited with optimism in my heart. I never expected what came next.
— “Mom, this is Grayson,” Megan said, walking in with a man who looked even older than me.
— “Nice to meet you, Erica,” he said confidently, offering me his hand.
— “Likewise,” I replied, trying to hide my discomfort. Megan hadn’t mentioned bringing a guest—let alone someone that age.
We sat down, but the atmosphere grew heavy.
When I asked Grayson what he did, he replied coolly, “Finance. Investments.” And when I asked Megan about college, she dropped a bomb:
— “Maybe college isn’t for everyone.”
I tried to stay calm, reminding her how hard we had worked to get her there. But she seemed spellbound by this man. She told me she felt free with him, like she could finally breathe.
I warned her that if she dropped out of college, she couldn’t count on my financial support. She didn’t hesitate:
— “That’s fine. I have Grayson’s money now.”
And that’s when things truly unraveled.
That same night, as we sat in uncomfortable silence, a loud knock echoed through the house. Megan opened the door… and there stood a young woman, red-eyed and visibly upset.
— “YOU!” she shouted at Grayson. “You told me I was the only one!”
Grayson froze.
Rachel confessed to putting a in his car after he continued to avoid her. Megan was stunned. She didn’t need any other proof. She pulled him to the door and shouted:
— “Get out.” Right now. “I do not want to see you again.”
Grayson stumbled out. But when he went onto the road, a car came around the corner and hit him. The horrible noise of the hit silenced everything.
At the hospital, they informed us that he would be unable to travel for some time.
The town’s only hotel was closed due to renovations. And as much as I wanted to turn him away, I couldn’t abandon him on the street. I grudgingly allowed him to stay.
In the days that followed, something unexpected occurred. I began to see a different side of him. We spent the evenings playing chess and talking for hours. He explained that he had lost his wife when they were young and had never recovered. He stated that younger women were only distractions; he felt lonely and lost.
I progressively fell in love.
When Grayson recovered, he gently proposed that we go see Megan together and talk to her. We found her in a small cafe. She was chilly at first, but she listened.
— “I’m not here to act like a father,” Grayson informed her. “I am here because I care. You deserve to be able to make your own decisions about your future, free of pressure from me or your mother.”
Megan rolled her eyes, but something moved. She ultimately stated:
— “Fine. “I will think about it.”
A few days later, she called me.
— “Mom… maybe you were right. I don’t have access to Grayson’s card anymore. The guys I’ve met don’t take me seriously. I miss my old life, my friends… the university.”
She paused, then added:
— “I’m sorry. I want to go back to school. This time, I mean it.”
Hearing those words, I felt like I had my daughter back. Grayson squeezed my hand and said softly:
— “I love you. We’ll face whatever comes—together.”
And just like that, calm descended upon me. For the first time in a long time, I felt prepared to let go of control and believe in what lied ahead. We sat together, watching the waves crash on the coast. We knew life would bring storms, but we weren’t alone.
What Men’s Beauty Standards Look Like in Different Countries
The mainstream definition of what an ideal man should look like varies from country to country. Just like women, a lot of men try to follow common beauty trends in order to be seen as more attractive. The cultural difference in what exactly people consider objectively beautiful might come as a surprise.
Bright Side did a fun bit of research about what people consider to be the ideal male beauty standard in many countries around the world. Looking at the most beloved male celebs will tell you about what is considered attractive.
1. United States and Canada
According to People’s magazine, the most attractive men in the US for the past 3 years are Paul Rudd (Ant-Man), Michael B. Jordan (Black Panther), and singer John Legend.
The usual definition of beauty, when it comes to men in the United States and Canada, is having a muscular physique, ruggedness, and golden skin. However, in the past couple of years, especially among the younger generation, an androgynous look has become more desirable.
2. India
According to the poll, the most attractive men in India are actors Shah Rukh Khan (Don 2), Aamir Khan (Like Stars on Earth), and Hrithik Roshan (Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara). Even though Shah Rukh Khan took first place, he actually opened up, saying that he has been called “ugly and unconventional” in the past.
The main beauty standard in India is having a lighter skin tone, which gets promoted a lot on TV. Other than that, Indian standards are pretty close to American: tall, muscular man, who have clear skin and a full head of hair.
3. United Kingdom
According to a 2021 poll, the most attractive man in the UK is Tom Hardy (Inception), and 2022 research suggests that Richard Madden (Game of Thrones) has a huge shot of winning that title.
The research data says that the ideal type of man for British people has an athletic build, brown eyes, short dark-brown hair, and some facial hair. In fact, men with beards are found to be over 60% more attractive than men without them.
4. Philippines
The most attractive men in the Philippines have been noted as Josh Cullen Santos from the boy group SB19 and the actor Alden Richards (Imagine You & Me).
The beauty standard in the Philippines has shifted and instead of looking macho, the men care about their appearance a lot and go for a more beautiful look, so they go to salons to get facials. Other standards include having dark hair, being at least 5’9“, and having a more “mestizo” look, which means being mixed with white.
5. South Korea
While western countries prefer men who are athletically built, South Korea likes more of a skinny, androgynous-looking body (not too skinny, fat, or muscular) for men. Men need to be a little bit soft, with slim facial features, double eyelids, and lighter skin.
Male celebrities in South Korea also do not shy away from using makeup or dyeing their hair, actors dye it black to look more youthful while idols dye it “fun” colors, and it is not considered to be revolutionary like it would be in the US.
6. Mexico
Mexicans go for a more “macho” look, which means being extremely masculine, as opposed to South Korea which prefers a more androgynous look. The list of the most attractive men includes actors Diego Boneta (Luis Miguel) and Ryan Guzman (9-1-1) in the first 2 spots.
7. Germany
According to research, German women prefer their men to be taller, with either black or brown short hair. The largest percent of the respondents said that they would like their man to be muscular, but skinny men took a close second place.
Football player Marco Reus and the actor Thore Schölermann have been named the most attractive men.
8. Italy
In Italy, men being overly masculine does not have much importance in terms of their attractiveness. In fact, a lot of men are into grooming and styling their body hair, and Italian men do not shy away from wearing “girlish” colors, like pink or purple.
The most attractive male celebrities are considered to be Raoul Bova and Giulio Berruti.
9. Australia
Australian male beauty standards are focused on physical size and being muscular. While women perceive their bodies as heavier than ideal, men who follow beauty standards, on the contrary, think they are too skinny. The Hemsworth brothers are considered one of the ideals of Australian beauty.
10. The Netherlands
The Netherlands is considered to be a country that has the tallest people in the world, with the average height of a woman being 5’7″ (around 170 cm), and 6’0″ (around 183 cm) for men. Dutch women seek a male partner that is taller than them.
TV presenter Arie Boomsma and actor Michiel Huisman have been named 2 of the most attractive Dutch men, and their heights match up the beauty standard: Boomsma is 6’5 (around 198 cm), while Peelen is 6’1 (around 185 cm). Notably, both men are also muscular and have facial hair.
Which country’s standards align with your own? Do you think standards are hurtful for people’s self-esteem?
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