This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Michael Landon’s Legacy Lives On
Even though Michael Landon, the adored actor best remembered for his parts in TV shows like Bonanza, Little House on the Prairie, and Highway to Heaven, passed away more than 30 years ago, his influence can still be seen today. In addition to his superb performances, he left a long-lasting legacy as a loving father and husband. Even though he had experienced hardship in his own life, he was committed to forging enduring relationships with his kids.
A Father’s Willpower
It’s possible that Landon’s difficult upbringing inspired his dedication to become a fantastic parent. He demonstrated extraordinary fortitude and resiliency by saving his mother’s life on several occasions when she attempted suicide. His mother battled mental illness. After a college sports injury prompted him to reevaluate his intentions, Landon continued to pursue his passion for acting while suffering personal challenges. After relocating to Los Angeles, he started a prosperous career in show business and gained notoriety by appearing on TV Guide’s cover an astounding 22 times—a record he shares with Lucille Ball.
A Man of the Family
Nine children were born to Landon during his three marriages. Mark and John are the names of the two kids he adopted with his first wife, Dodie Levy-Fraser. Leslie, Michael Jr., Christopher, and Shawna were the four children he had with his second wife, Lynn Noe. Additionally, he took in Lynn’s daughter Cheryl from a prior marriage. Despite the controversy surrounding their age gap, Landon married Cindy Clerico when his second marriage ended. Landon, however, angrily denied any adultery, asserting that there are more sinister reasons why partnerships fail than just a simple attraction to a younger person.
Despite the difficulties of managing a big family, Landon loved being a father and took a keen interest in his kids’ lives. Jennifer, his daughter, revealed that he was an inquisitive and devoted parent who cherished instructing his children. Tragically, Landon lost his life in 1991 at the age of 54 after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Every one of his kids came together in his last days, showing him love and support all the way to the end.
Continuing the Tradition
Christopher Landon, one of Landon’s sons, became a director by following in his father’s footsteps. He frequently shares memories and shows his love for his late father on social media. But Christopher’s life hasn’t always been simple. He made his kidney cancer diagnosis public on social media in 2021. Fortunately, the cancer was discovered early, and the damaged kidney sections were successfully removed during emergency surgery. Christopher exhorts everyone to put their health first and schedule routine examinations.
Seeing Michael Landon’s family carry on his legacy is touching. His legacy as an actor, spouse, and parent continues to inspire us and serve as a reminder of the value of love, family, and maintaining good health.
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