There are so many things in the world that we may admire or even get inspired by, but there’s one main thing we may want to fall in love with before we start noticing the beauty of other things. It’s our own reflection in the mirror. Among all the numerous recipes for conjuring up self-love within ourselves, psychologists advise us to never compare ourselves to others and stop caring about other people’s opinions. Actress and producer Lena Dunham knows a lot about cultivating love for her own body despite all the criticism she faced, and she happily shares her journey with us all.
Lena Dunham doesn’t accept the term “body positivity,” and here’s why.
Actress and writer Lena Dunham has recently added another string to her bow and collaborated with the brand 11 Honoré to create a plus-size clothing collection. But the very term “plus size” frustrates Lena, and so is the term “body positivity.” In one of her Instagram posts, she explains that she feels more “body tolerant” than “body positive.”
In her interview, Dunham said, “The thing that’s complicated about the body-positive movement is it can be for the privileged few who have a body that looks the way people want to feel positive. We want curvy bodies that look like Kim Kardashian has been up-sized slightly. We want big beautiful butts and big beautiful breasts and no cellulite and faces that look like you could smack them onto thin women.”
Dunham has a very special relationship with her own body.
Dunhams path to self-love started with a decade-long journey with endometriosis. Since she started her own fight against it, she has been candidly sharing how it influenced both her emotional health and her relationship with her own body image. In her Instagram post, she emotionally described how she fluctuated between loving her body and the opposite.
She wrote, “Ya know when you’re home alone, and you realize you’d be happier in a hot lil’ onesie than your ketchup and cat food stained pajamas? And it’s not about a boy or a photo shoot or a weight loss before-and-after, it’s just for the feeling of glee you get from dressing your one and only corporeal form in pleasing fabrics, the unique pleasure of admiring the twists and turns of the body that loves the heck out of you even when you don’t love it.”
Dunham is powerfully addressing all people who come to her page with criticism.
In 2021, Dunham tied the knot with musician Luis Felber. It was such a darling event for her that she wore 3 wedding dresses to marry her love and shared the photos on her Instagram. However, she started getting some “gnarly” comments in her feed from people who commented on her body and appearance. The actress didn’t hesitate for a minute to address them with a powerful message.
She wrote, “One narrative I take issue with, largely because it’s a story I don’t want other women, other people, to get lodged in their heads, is that I should somehow be criticized because my body has changed since I was last on television. […] But lastly, when will we learn to stop equating thinness with health/happiness?”
Dunham’s powerful message can be echoed in the hearts of many.
For all people who have ever hesitated about embracing their body image, Dunham has some simple yet wise advice. She says, “Of course weight loss can be the result of positive change in habits, but guess what? So can weight gain. The pics I’m being compared to are from when I was with an undiagnosed illness. In the last 4 years, I’ve begun my life as someone who aspires toward health and not just achievement.
These changes have allowed me to be the kind of sister/friend/daughter that I want to be and yes — meet my husband (who, by the way, doesn’t recognize me in those old photos because he sees how dimmed my light was). I say this for any other person whose appearance has been changed with time, illness, or circumstance — it’s okay to live in your present body without treating it as transitional. I am, and I’m really enjoying it. Love you all.”
Do you find Lena Dunham’s example inspiring? What do you love the most about your appearance?
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The tiny twins talk, but when you hear them, you’ll melt. Delightful.
Lily and Lucas were two small twins who lived in a charming village surrounded by rolling hills. Their hearts were as huge as the sun that shone down on their town every day, even though they were small in stature. But what really made them unique was their capacity to converse in whispers so delicate that anyone who heard them could not help but smile.
A family of woodland animals had taken up residence in a secret glade that Lily and Lucas discovered one day while exploring the magical forest on the outskirts of the settlement. The twins’ soft murmurs drew the animals, who greeted them with wide arms—or paws, or wings.
As Lily and Lucas got to know their new friends better, they discovered that the forest was about to face a threat. Envious of the beauty of the forest, a wicked sorceress plotted to use magic to make the trees wither and scare the animals away. The twins were determined to defend their new home, so they set out to collect the one item that would be able to lift the sorceress’s curse: a rare flower that would only bloom once a year when the full moon shone.
There were many perils on their trek, including dark caverns full of terrifying monsters and perilous ravines. But Lily and Lucas persevered because of their unshakable friendship and their capacity to interact with even the most unexpected of allies.
They eventually located the elusive flower, its petals gleaming with magic, beneath the light of the full moon. They grabbed it from its stem with quivering hands and dashed back to the glade, where the animals were assembled to confront the sorceress.
Holding the flower high, Lily and Lucas moved forward as the sorceress unleashed her evil spell. By shattering the curse and bringing the woodland back to its former splendor, its brightness broke through the gloom.
The forest’s animals and the inhabitants, who had previously misjudged the twins’ strength, rejoiced as the little twins ultimately emerged as heroes. Despite the numerous experiences they experienced, they always believed that they could conquer any obstacle as long as they had each other and their whispers.
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