Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas wrote a book about marriage. It’s called “What Makes a Marriage Last: 40 Celebrated Couples Share with Us the Secrets.” In the book, they talk about their own marriage and share secrets from other couples.
Even though Marlo has been married to Phil for more than 40 years, she admits that when she was younger, she didn’t really want to get married.
In the book, Marlo Thomas talks about how she used to think marriage was like a vacuum cleaner that sucks out all your energy and ambition. She felt like living with a jailer you had to please.
But everything changed when she met Phil Donahue. They found each other after Phil’s first marriage ended, and now they have a strong bond that has lasted their whole lives.
Phil Donahue became famous with his TV show, “The Phil Donahue Show,” which later became just “Donahue.” It ran for 29 years and was the first show to let the audience join in. Marlo Thomas was a guest on his show, and meeting her changed Phil’s life.
The couple first met in Chicago in 1977. Phil Donahue already had four boys with him, and his fifth child, a daughter, lived with his ex-wife and her mother in another place.
Marlo and Phil dated for three years before getting married in 1980 in a small ceremony with 35 people.
Marlo’s friends and family were surprised by her decision to get married, given her past views on marriage. The book tells a funny story about friends at Marlo’s bridal shower putting up quotes from her that showed her previous thoughts about marriage.
According to the book, Marlo’s mom was really surprised at their wedding and kept asking Phil, “How did you get her to do this?” Even strangers, like a woman on their honeymoon plane to Greece, were shocked and disappointed that Marlo, who was known for being independent, decided to settle down.
In the book, Marlo admits that this made her doubt her choice. She wondered if she was being hypocritical since she had criticized marriage for so long. She worried that she let down fans who saw her as a symbol of independence.
Despite the challenges, Phil and Marlo make their marriage work. They talk about the ups and downs in the book, saying that those tough times helped strengthen their bond.
In the early days of their marriage, they spent time apart because Phil was taping his show in Chicago, and Marlo was traveling for her acting career. Even though they weren’t always living together, Marlo’s aunt helped her see that marriage can mean different things to different people.
Despite the distance, Marlo and Phil made their marriage successful. And one important thing to note is that Marlo not only gained a husband but also gained children when she got married.
In a 2012 interview with AARP, Marlo Thomas talked about helping to raise Phil’s children. She knew they already had a traditional mother, so she didn’t try to take on that role. Instead, she became more like a friend to Phil’s children, just like her own mother was to her.
Marlo says that her relationship with Phil’s children is even stronger now than when she first married Phil. In the book, Phil emphasizes that Marlo spent a lot of time talking to and trying to understand his sons.
Phil and Marlo think that the key to their long marriage is the trust they have in each other. Marlo says, “You build trust when you realize that this person always has your back.”
Even though they’ve been married for over 40 years, they believe there are still more memories to create together.
Phil says that for a marriage to last, both people have to really want it. Marlo agrees and says that looking back, she wouldn’t have it any other way than being married to Phil. She points out that he has supported her in every possible way.
Marriage is a wonderful connection, especially when two people fully commit to it. This couple is truly inspiring and sets a great example for all of us. We should all aim for a relationship as successful as theirs!
My Sister Shocked Grandma with a $3,000 Birthday Party Bill – I Taught Her a Lesson
What started as a lovely birthday gesture from my sister to our grandmother turned into a painful confrontation and hurt feelings. I was determined to remedy the situation, and the only way to bring us all together as a family again was to heal the wounds. Read on to learn how I taught my sibling a valuable lesson.
Growing up, family gatherings were always a big deal for us. We’d gather around, laugh, eat, and celebrate each other’s milestones. My sister, Amanda, and I had always been close, sharing our lives’ ups and downs. But last year, she pulled a stunt that nearly tore our family apart.
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It all started when Amanda decided to throw a surprise 90th birthday party for our grandmother, Grace. It was supposed to be a small, intimate gathering at our house, but my sister had bigger plans.
She booked a hall in a swanky downtown restaurant and assured everyone that the costs were covered. “Don’t worry about anything, guys,” Amanda said confidently during our family Zoom call. “It’s Grandma’s 90th, so we’re going all out. I’ve got it all handled.”
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We were all excited and ready to enjoy what we assumed would be a perfect day, but I should have known better. My sister had a history of being a bit extravagant, often going overboard with her ideas. But I trusted her like I always did.
The day of the party arrived, and the restaurant hall was beautifully decorated with flowers and balloons. There was also a large banner that read, “Happy 90th Birthday, Grandma!” My grandma was beaming and over the moon, touched by the effort when she arrived to everyone singing “Happy birthday to you!”
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My granny couldn’t stop smiling because of all the love and attention she was getting. It was a beautiful thing to witness, and I almost got teary-eyed at one point. Everything was going wonderfully.
We all enjoyed delicious food, lively conversations, and a warm and welcoming family atmosphere. Everything seemed perfect. But as the evening was winding down, the mood shifted dramatically in anticipation of the surprise that was about to hit us.
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A waiter approached our grandmother with a leather folder in hand. “Ma’am, here’s the bill,” he said politely, placing it in front of her. Grandma’s eyes widened as she opened the folder.
“Three thousand dollars?” she gasped, her face turning pale with shock.
My poor grandmother was floored when she realized the WHOLE tab was on her! We were also confused and kept muttering amongst ourselves as we tried to figure out what was going on.
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Amanda, seemingly unfazed, turned to Grace and said, “Oh, Grandma, we all know you’re wealthy, so don’t hesitate to pay up for everything. After all, I organized all this for YOU!”
I was so shocked, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing!
The room had fallen silent. But my grandmother’s reaction left me even more floored. Her hands trembled as she closed the folder before asking, her voice shaking with anger, “What makes you think I’m wealthy?”
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Amanda shrugged nonchalantly. “Well, you have a big house and a nice car, and you paid for everyone’s college. That means you have money. Don’t pretend you’re poor.” The room gasped as we listened to them going back and forth.
Grandma’s expression hardened as she said, “I worked HARD to earn a decent life for myself and to pay for my children’s and grandchildren’s education. But that doesn’t mean I’m rich.” Seeing how upset my grandmother was getting, I tried to settle her.
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“It’s okay, Grandma, you don’t have to explain yourself, we’ll sort this out,” I said. But the damage was already done, and Grace was livid. She shrugged me off and continued talking to my sister.
“I didn’t ask for this dinner, and if you all came just to eat at my expense…” The weight of her words hung in the air. Without another word, Grandma pulled out her checkbook, wrote a check for the full amount, and left the restaurant.
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The rest of us sat there, stunned and ashamed. I felt horrible about the whole situation, especially since my sister made it seem like we were all in on it. The way things played out, my Grandma thought we were all involved in Amanda’s plan when we had no idea she would do something like this.
Amanda looked around, her confidence waning. “I didn’t mean for it to go like this,” she said quietly. But the damage was done. What had started and progressed into a lovely celebration was now dampened by conflict.
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Everything was spoiled, and the good memories we’d made were now overridden by Amanda’s carelessness. I couldn’t shake the feeling of betrayal. Without saying much, I left the venue and drove home in silence while being deep in thought.
By the time I reached my house, I had decided I needed to teach my sister a lesson she wouldn’t forget. I wanted to get back at her for what she did to our grandmother. So I came up with a cunning and devious plan.
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A few weeks later, I set my plan into motion. I organized a fake “exclusive event” in Amanda’s honor, claiming she was getting a surprise award for her “amazing organizational skills.” I sent out invitations to all our friends and family, making sure everyone knew it was a surprise.
I told Amanda that it was a black-tie affair at a fancy venue and that she was our guest of honor. Since she LOVED attention, my poor clueless sister didn’t even want to know much about why she was being honored.
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She was thrilled to have an event done specially for her. The special occasion was set for a Friday evening at a fancy venue downtown. I hired actors to play the roles of important guests and even a fake award presenter.
I wanted everything to be perfect the same way Amanda had wanted Grandma’s party to be. My sister arrived that evening, dressed to the nines in a shimmering evening gown. She looked radiant, expecting a night of praise and admiration.
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As she entered the venue, she was greeted by applause from the guests. “Welcome, everyone,” the fake presenter announced, stepping onto the stage. “Tonight, we honor Amanda for her exceptional organizational skills and her ability to make every event memorable.”
My sibling beamed, her smile lighting up the room. She had no idea what was coming next. The presenter continued, “Amanda has a unique talent for managing events, often finding creative ways to ensure everything runs well.”
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He paused for effect, glancing at me before delivering the punchline. “And by creative ways, I mean her masterful ability to make others pay for her grand schemes.” The room erupted in laughter. Amanda’s smile faltered as she realized this was no ordinary award ceremony.
The presenter, an actor I’d hired, listed several fabricated examples of my sister’s so-called organizational skills, each one more absurd than the last. “And let’s not forget her recent accomplishment, convincing her grandmother to foot the bill for a $3,000 birthday party. Truly, a genius move!”
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Amanda’s face turned crimson. She looked around, mortified, as the guests continued to laugh and clap at her expense as they realized the event was a prank. My sister turned to me, her eyes filled with betrayal but also a look that conveyed that she understood the message.
When the whole performance was done, people settled in to enjoy the rest of the evening. I pulled Amanda aside, away from the prying eyes of the guests. “This is a taste of how it feels to be humiliated in front of people you care about,” I said, my voice low but firm.
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“You better think twice before you treat Grandma or anyone else like that again.”
Amanda’s eyes filled with tears. “I’m sorry,” she said, her voice breaking. “I never meant to hurt Grandma. I thought it would be a nice surprise.”
“It wasn’t nice, Amanda. It was selfish and thoughtless. You can’t just assume that people have money to spend on your ideas. Grandma deserves better than that.”
Amanda nodded, wiping away her tears. “I understand. I’ll apologize to her. I promise I’ll change.”
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True to her word, Amanda apologized to Grandma the next day. She expressed her regret and promised to never take advantage of anyone’s generosity again. Grandma, ever the forgiving soul, accepted her apology, though it was clear she was still hurt by the incident.
To make amends, my sister and I organized another family dinner, this time at a modest restaurant that Grandma loved. We covered the ENTIRE bill and reimbursed Grandma for the previous dinner. It wasn’t about the money; it was about restoring the trust and respect that had been damaged.
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As we sat around the table, enjoying a much more relaxed and heartfelt evening, Grandma smiled at us, her eyes twinkling with gratitude. “Family is everything,” she said softly. “And I’m glad we’re able to come together like this.”
Looking at Amanda, I could see the sincerity in her eyes. She had learned her lesson, and our family bond was stronger for it. We laughed, shared stories, and created new memories that night, leaving the past behind us.
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In the end, Amanda’s misguided attempt at a grand gesture turned into a valuable lesson for all. It reminded us of the importance of humility, respect, and understanding the true meaning of generosity. And most importantly, it reaffirmed the strength of our family’s love and commitment to one another.
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