While performing in Denver, Van Ark met actress Julie Harris while interviewing her for a local newspaper, and the actress persuaded her to study acting and drama at the Yale Drama School.
As a result, Van Ark became the youngest student ever to receive a scholarship to the well-respected school and the second woman ever to enroll. The first woman was Julie Harris, who helped Van Ark into the school.
“She wrote to the dean and asked him to meet me. Long story short, my parents drove me to New Haven, Connecticut, to meet the dean, who gave me a scholarship,” she recalled.” It was meant to be.”
Valene Ewing on ‘Dallas’ and ‘Knots Landing’
Van Ark began her professional career at the Minneapolis Guthrie Theater, where she starred in The Miser by Moliere. After working about a year at the Arena Stage in Washington DC, she moved down to work with the national touring company Barefoot in the Park in 1963, which led to her Broadway debut. In 1971, she was nominated for the Tony Award for Best Featured Actress in a Play after starring in The School for Wives.
At that point, Joan Van Ark had begun working in front of a screen rather than on stage. She appeared on television series including Temperature’s Rising, Spider-Woman, and Days of Our Lives and even in one episode of Bonanza.
Even though Joan Van Ark wasn’t short of jobs, she was still looking for her significant breakthrough role as the 1980s approached. In 1978, she made several appearances as Valene Ewing on Dallas – which led her to the role of a lifetime.
Knots Landing – a spinoff of Dallas – premiered in 1979, and Joan Van Ark reprised her role as Valene Ewing. She starred in 327 episodes – acting alongside Michele Lee as Karen and Ted Schakleford as Gary – and became a massive star.
Even though it was a spinoff of Dallas – about the rotten but wealthy Ewing Clan – it was initially brought to CBS years before.
However, the network wanted a “big rich family” show, and Dallas got picked as the one. But later on, Knots Landing became a massive success as the studio realized how big of a show Dallas had grown into, and after only one season, it rose into the top 20 in TV ratings.
How Joan Van Ark almost missed out on her biggest role
Knots Landing became the story of Gary Ewing and his wife Valene – played by Van Ark – and how they decided to start a new life in Knots Landing.
However, Van Ark almost missed out on the part of Valene Ewing. She explained that she had a “three-way clash” where she did The Love Boat simultaneously, as well as a commercial in New York.
In the end, it was her husband – John Marshall, who we will come back to in a minute – that persuaded her into choosing Dallas. And it was a significant – and important – decision.
“I got the call asking me to do a guest appearance in this show called Dallas, which was attracting a lot of buzz, but I said to my husband, ‘John, why should I even read this script? I can’t be in three places at once,’” she told Express. “Then he read it and said, ‘No, you’ve got to do it. It looks wonderful.’”
“So basically, he talked me into a schedule that had me in LA one day, then flying to Dallas for two days, followed by two days in New York and then back to Texas. But looking at this old cast photo from Knots Landing – the spinoff from Dallas – I’m so glad I listened to him,” she added.
Dallas and Knots Landing became a 15-year commitment for Van Ark, who became identified by her role. As earlier mentioned, she and Julie Harris had quite a history – and in 1980, they met again
“I could stay forever on the show and be safe”
Harris was cast in Knots Landing as the mother of Van Arks’ character, and for the actress, it was almost too good to be true.
“When the producers told me they had finally last someone to play my mother, I held my breath,” she recalled in a 1984 interview with Florida Today.
“I thought, ‘Oh my God, are they going to say Phyllis Diller or Zsa Zsa Gabor, or who?’ Then they said it was Julie Harris, and I went right through the roof. I couldn’t believe they had picked her to be my mother. They didn’t even know we were friends.”
Joan Van Ark stayed for 13 seasons and 327 episodes on the show. Then in 1993, just one season after she left, Knots Landing was canceled. But the reason for Joan leaving wasn’t that she didn’t like it. Instead, it was all about her trying on new challenges.“I could stay forever on the show and be safe,” Van Ark told the Los Angeles Times in 1992.
“But three years ago, I did Night of the Iguana in Williamstown (Mass.), and I had a quote from Tennessee Williams taped on my mirror, taken from an essay he’d written on success. It said, and I’m paraphrasing here: ‘Security is in the shape of a kidney-shaped pool in Los Angeles, where you sit waiting for your residual checks.’ I was in a comfortable spot on Knots, and an artist should not be comfortable.”
At the same time, the television series became a huge part of Van Ark’s life. So even though she felt comfortable leaving, it was a tough blow since she thought it would be easier.
Blamed herself for ‘Knots Landing’ cancelation
“I have loved more than life the 13 years I’ve had on that show,” she said. “[Knots Landing creator] David Jacobs is a great influence on my life, has taught me so much about so many things. Ted [Shackelford] is the other half of every breath I take on the show, and personally, he’s a large part of my heart. The people are my family–we have shared marriages, deaths, divorces. It’s far more difficult to leave than I thought.”
The show didn’t quite work without the great chemistry between characters Valen and Gary. In fact, Joan took the blame for the show being shut down.
“Well, it was my fault. I jumped over to NBC to do a pilot which did not sell,” she said. “I was so ready to go, after fourteen years with the one lady, so I auditioned for the pilot, and they cast me. It wasn’t as cleanly negotiated as it should have been. When the pilot didn’t sell, they asked me back, and I did do the four-hour finale of the show.”
Joan Van Ark left the soap opera business behind but continued to star in many television series. She had minor parts in television series, including Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, and starred in some television movies. Between 2004 and 2005, Joan appeared as Gloria Fisher in 55 episodes of the hugely successful television drama The Young and The Restless.Joan Van Ark – marriage, husband, children
It’s common for celebrities in Hollywood to marry other celebrities, and show-biz marriages don’t always last very long.
But that wasn’t the case for Joan Van Ark, who met the love of her life back in high school. She met her husband, John Marshall, while the two were students in Boulder. In 1966, the couple married on a military base in Germany.
“Believe me, it was nothing like the marriages [Valene Ewing] has gone through,” she told UPI.
In 1969, they welcomed daughter Vanessa Marshall, who also chose a career in entertainment. She became a well-known voice-over artist and actually gave up on her on-camera acting career. Instead, Vanessa Marshall has lent her voice to animated films, television series, and several video games.
John Marshall went on to become an Emmy newsman, working on KNBC-TV and NBC. He’s had a flourishing career just as his wife Joan, and while the couple was working hard to make it in their respective fields, Vanessa was growing up.
For Van Ark, becoming a mother while trying to navigate through the business was tough. And she gives credit to her husband, John, for keeping the family together during those stressful years.
“He is the reason we have the most wonderful daughter in the world and that the marriage has stayed strong,” Van Ark told The Leader-Post in 1988. “I feel I am the committed person who can’t give up time for this or that.”
“He did not want to miss watching Venessa grow up, and he did not want to miss me,” she added. “He knows correspondents live out of suitcases. John made career choices I didn’t agree with because if it had been me, I would have packed my bags, and I would have been waiving at the airport.”Joan Van Ark – net worth
Besides her acting job, Joan Van Ark has a great interest in running. The 78-year-old has completed several marathons and explained she’s running instead of going to a psychologist. However, when it comes to her husband, she stated that she would never go on a run with him.
Why? Because “it’s the quickest way to a divorce that I know of. You’re always criticizing the other’s style,” Joan said.
In the last decade, Joan Van Ark has continued to work on stage in several productions for theater and starring in television series and movies such as Watercolor Postcards and Psycho Wedding Crasher. But she will always be most remembered for her magnificent spell on Dallas and Knots Landing.
According to Celebrity Net Worth, Joan Van Ark has a net worth of around $10 million.
I Walked Out of My Own Birthday Dinner in Tears from Humiliation After My Fiancé’s ‘Surprise’
After a tough year, Morgan’s fiancé promised her birthday would be unforgettable. Dressed up and hopeful, she walks into a lavish surprise party. But the night takes a cruel turn when he stands to toast and hands her a demeaning gift.
I wasn’t one for grand celebrations. A cake and a quiet evening would’ve been perfect — especially this year.
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Between my struggle adapting to an increased workload after a job promotion, losing my childhood dog, Rufus, and watching Dad’s health slowly decline, I was emotionally drained.
Turning 30 felt like just another thing to get through.
So when Greyson started acting mysterious about my birthday (hiding his phone with a smirk, dropping hints like, “You’re gonna love what I’ve planned. It’s gonna blow your mind”), I dared to hope for something sweet. Maybe even healing.
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“Wear something nice,” he told me that night. “Something you’d wear to a fancy rooftop place.”
I took my time getting ready. When I walked into the living room, Greyson looked up from his phone and whistled.
“Perfect,” he said, his eyes moving up and down. “You actually look good when you put in some effort.” He added in what I recognized as his teasing voice, “And you’re gonna need to look stunning for this.”
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My heart fluttered as we drove. He really did something nice, I thought. After months of feeling invisible, I finally mattered enough for him to plan something special.
We pulled up to an elegant restaurant. Jazz played softly as the hostess smiled and led us toward a private room.
The door swung open, and—
“SURPRISE!”
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The room exploded with applause from friends and family. A massive cake shaped like stacked books sat on a table (a nod to my job as a librarian). It was perfect!
I turned to Greyson, genuinely moved. He leaned in and cupped my face, speaking to me alone: “See? I always know exactly what you need.”
I nodded and smiled up at him. He did. He really did.
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For the first time in months, I let my guard down and allowed myself to enjoy the moment.
Laughter, toasts, candles… and Greyson showing a rare display of affection, his arm draped around my waist as we mingled.
About an hour in, Greyson stood and clinked his glass with a spoon. “Attention everyone! Time for a toast! And then, the main gift for our birthday girl.”
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The room quieted. I felt a flush of pleasure as everyone turned to look at us.
“I want to thank everyone for coming tonight,” he started. “As you all know, Morgan’s been through a lot lately; job stress, losing her dog, and, well… turning 30.”
He paused for effect, and laughter bubbled awkwardly through the room.
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“I thought long and hard about what to get you, babe,” he continued, turning to me. “Jewelry? Nah, you’d probably lose it like that bracelet I got you last Christmas. A vacation? Too cliché. So I decided to get you something truly useful.”
He reached under the table and pulled out a gift bag tied with a pink ribbon.
The crowd “oohed” appreciatively. My cheeks hurt from smiling so much.
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He handed it to me with a flourish. “Go ahead, open it.”
I pulled out the tissue paper, expecting maybe concert tickets or a beautiful journal. Instead, I pulled out… pink rubber gloves.
Then a sponge. Paper towels. And finally, a toilet brush.
My smile froze.
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“Now you’ve got NO excuse to keep leaving dishes in the sink, babe!” Greyson laughed.
Polite laughter rippled through the room. My cheeks burned, no longer from joy. I forced my smile to stay put.
“Very funny,” I managed.
“Oh, and don’t worry — I did get you a real gift,” Greyson said, as if reading my mind.
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Relief washed over me. Of course. This was just his way of being playful before the real surprise.
He handed me an envelope. Inside was a laminated chore chart with my name on every line: dishes, vacuuming, bathroom, laundry, groceries, meal prep.
“I made this so you don’t forget what your jobs are around the house,” he explained brightly. “Because I definitely won’t.”
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A few strained chuckles sounded from my guests.
“Is this the real gift, or…?” I whispered.
“Oh no, I’m serious,” he shrugged. “Hey, you’re the one who’s always saying you ‘thrive with structure,’ right?” Then, he leaned in close and said under his breath, “Think of it as a home promotion to go with your job promotion last month. Happy Birthday!”
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I don’t remember the next few minutes clearly.
I know I smiled. Nodded. Thanked him. I remember folding the chart carefully and placing it back in the envelope. I excused myself, saying I needed some air.
I walked out to the parking lot, sat in our car, and cried for 20 minutes.
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Just when I was debating whether to return to the party or simply vanish, someone knocked on the car window.
It was Natalie, Greyson’s cousin. I quickly wiped my eyes, but it was too late. She had seen.
She opened the passenger door and slid in beside me. Without a word, she wrapped her arms around me.
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“That was disgusting,” she whispered. “I’m so sorry.”
I broke down again, the dam finally giving way.
“I don’t understand,” I sobbed. “Why would he do that? In front of everyone? On my birthday?”
Natalie pulled back, her expression troubled. “This wasn’t last-minute, Morgan. He’s been planning this for weeks.”
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“What?”
She nodded grimly. “He called me to help arrange the surprise party three weeks ago. And he said, and I quote, ‘She thinks she’s so perfect. Let’s humble her a little.'”
My world tilted. “What are you talking about?”
“He told Jason that you’ve been getting ‘too full of yourself’ since your promotion. That you needed to be knocked down a peg.”
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I felt sick. “But I’ve barely mentioned my promotion. I’ve been so focused on Dad’s health and—”
“I know,” Natalie cut in. “But Greyson… his jokes have always had a mean edge, but he went too far this time.”
“I should go back in,” I said numbly.
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“You don’t have to,” Natalie replied. “I’ll tell them you weren’t feeling well.”
“No,” I shook my head. “I… I want to salvage what I can of this night.”
I went home that night shattered, replaying every moment of the evening. Greyson was attentive, asking if I liked my surprise party and if I was excited about my “gifts.” I smiled and nodded, something hollow growing inside me.
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The next morning, I quietly packed a weekend bag, removed my engagement ring, and drove to my sister’s house two towns over.
I ignored Greyson’s frantic texts: “Where are you???” “Are you seriously mad about a joke???” “Everyone thought it was funny except you.”
Over the next few days, I replayed the last two years: his subtle jabs disguised as concern, the passive-aggressive jokes, the financial control masked as “being responsible.”
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I started documenting everything: screenshots of texts, voice notes I’d saved, comments about chores, my cooking, and how I dressed.
The truth clicked into place: this wasn’t a one-time cruelty, but a painful pattern of emotional abuse. I couldn’t believe I hadn’t seen it before.
Two weeks later, while Greyson was at the gym, I returned to our apartment with Natalie and two friends.
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We boxed up my things quickly and efficiently.
But I also left something: his own chore chart, printed and laminated, with each task assigned to “Greyson.”
I stuck a Post-it note on it that read: “No excuse now. You’ve got this, right?”
Then I blocked his number. I thought that was the end of it, but I was wrong.
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A month later, as I was settling into my new routine, I got a DM on Facebook from Margo, Greyson’s ex.
“You probably don’t know me,” it read. “We only met once briefly, but I dated Greyson before you. I saw that your relationship status changed and your ring was gone in your new profile picture. I just wanted to say… I understand.”
We met for coffee.
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Margo told me about how Greyson had pulled the same public shaming trick at her college graduation party three years ago.
“He stood up in front of my entire family and announced that I only got honors because I ‘slept less and kissed up to more professors.’ Everyone laughed uncomfortably. I was humiliated.”
We talked for hours, piecing together the pattern of a man who built himself up by tearing others down.
Then we decided to do something about him.
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Together, we wrote a PSA-style post about humiliation masked as humor, emotional manipulation, and the subtle forms abuse can take.
We didn’t mention names, but we spoke our truths and anyone who knew us could figure out who we were referring to.
The post spread like wildfire.
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It had 13,000 shares within days. Comments flooded in: “This happened to me too.” “I thought I was alone.” “I’m still trying to find the courage to leave.”
Greyson deleted all his social media within 48 hours. I later heard that he left town to “start over.”
But I wasn’t watching. I was rebuilding.
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I’m in therapy now. I got that raise my boss had been hinting at and signed a lease on a cozy little apartment for me and Bailey, my golden retriever puppy.
No man will ever hand me a sponge and call it a gift again.
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