“I hope you die!” she told her former babysitter.
Her first wedding took place on the beach.
She thinks her new look is “a little rebellious.”
Despite her humble birth on July 1, 1967, in Ladysmith, British Columbia, to a waitress and jack-of-all-trades, the brunette in the photo’s birth was reported in a newspaper. She was the first centennial baby.
She went on to have an extraordinary life sparked by another instance of being in the right place at the right time. However, she first had to survive a traumatic childhood of violence and abuse.
Her parents were 17 and 19 when they had her and still went out occasionally. Somewhere between the ages of four and eight, she had a female babysitter who molested her for around a year.
The babysitter “sexualized” the girl at a very young age, making her play inappropriate games. One day, the caretaker told her because she is a “bad girl,” Santa Claus would not visit her that year.
“I ran after her in tears, calling her a liar… and clumsily stabbed her with a candy-cane-striped pen in her chest,” she penned in her memoir. “‘I hope you die!’ I screamed through tears.”
The female predator died in a car accident following her graduation not long after. On hearing the news, the girl came to believe it was her doing, that she had some extraordinary power. She carried this with her for her “entire young life,” eventually confiding in her mom and dad.
Her parent’s volatile relationship would also cause her to act out. Once, when the couple was fighting, she tried to divert attention away from it by telling her younger brother to hide while she convinced the town that he was missing.
Her father would dole out cruel punishments. When she went against his wishes to have her kittens in the house, he placed them in a paper bag and drowned them in the ocean. “I felt like I died that night, too,” she remembers.
Between ages 12 and 14, she was sexually assaulted twice, and a boyfriend kicked her out of a moving car. She once stopped her father from assaulting her mom further by punching him.
The young brunette became known as “Blue Zone Girl” when she was spotted on a jumbotron at a football game, but she would soon be renowned worldwide by her real name, Pamela Anderson.
A beer company scouted her as a spokesmodel, leading to a Playboy shoot. A “Home Improvement” role brought her into the mainstream, but she became a superstar portraying CJ on “Baywatch.”
Her whirlwind romance with drummer Tommy Lee crescendoed into a wedding on the beach in Cancun, Mexico, in 1995, where she wore a white string bikini and he was in trunks. The couple had two children, Dylan Jagger and Brandon Thomas.
The footage they made during their honeymoon was stolen and sold as one of the first sex tapes of the internet era. The actress has never watched the tape but has felt its effects. She wrote how it “ruined lives,” starting with their relationship.
Lee was jailed for four months after he was found guilty of spousal abuse, and they divorced in 1998. She filed for full custody of the children in 2012, claiming that he was emotionally and physically abusive towards them.
Anderson has experienced a resurgence in her career. She has taken back the narrative surrounding her crafted by the media with a memoir, “Love, Pamela,” and participating in the companion Netflix documentary.
Returning to her coastal hometown of Ladysmith, Anderson found a “healing space” with its “crazy calmness.” With limited paparazzi on the island, she feels protected. She lives alone with her five dogs.
“I live a more romantic life now that I’m alone than I did in relationships,” Anderson said of the home she made in her grandparent’s old farmhouse.
The humanitarian runs through the waves on the beach adjoined to her property year-round. When not working, she keeps busy in the 15,000-square-foot vegetable and rose garden and has taken up pottery. “I’m very crafty. I didn’t realize,” she said.
In an interview with People in January 2023, she conceded that she would like to have someone to share her life but that it tended to be a case of her catering to her partner’s needs. After Lee, she wed Kid Rock and married Rick Salomon twice (one of which was annulled).
Her most recent marriage to Dan Hayhurst lasted only a few months and ended in 2021. The “V.I.P.” star has learned that she does not need a man to bring her roses:
“I’ve just planted a hundred rose bushes. I can get them any time I want — and they’re my favorite roses.”
She told Elle in August 2023 that the early morning hours were her favorite time. Anderson spends this time writing a newsletter, though she quipped she does this to distract herself from writing long, rambling emails to her sons.
Just as gardening and writing in the mornings replaced the party lifestyle she enjoyed at the height of her fame, so has her signature beauty look morphed into something else.
She was known for big blond hair, thin brows, and heavy eye makeup with tiny outfits that were, by her own account, “wild and uninhibited.” Anderson added:
“I don’t know if it was a defense mechanism or what. I just thought, ‘I’m going to have fun.’”
Over the past few years, she has been sporting a more stripped-down beauty look, sometimes looking like she is not wearing makeup. Following the death of her makeup artist, Alexis Vogel, she started taking a new approach. She explained:
“She was the best. And since then, I just felt, without Alexis, it’s just better for me not to wear makeup.”
The star might have turned her back on the signature look, but a new generation of people have rediscovered her Y2K style and #Pamcore trends frequently on TikTok.
The animal lover contends that her beauty update is “freeing, and fun, and a little rebellious too.” When she looks in the mirror, she feels “rooted for.” Pamela Anderson says she is in a good place.
My Grandma Served Her Church for 50 Years Until They Gave Her Nothing When She Needed Them—Her Will Contained the Perfect Payback
When Eleanor is abandoned by the church she served for nearly 50 years, her silence speaks louder than any sermon. As her granddaughter watches heartbreak turn into clarity, one final act of truth is set in motion. This is an unforgettable story of legacy, faith, and the quiet power of not being forgotten.
The day of my grandmother’s funeral was sunny. No thunderclaps, no storm clouds. Just warmth. The kind she always carried with her.
Her name was Eleanor and she served her church for nearly five decades without ever asking for anything. Until she needed them. And they gave her nothing.
A funeral altar | Source: Midjourney
Not one church leader came. Not by mistake but by design. They were not invited.
It wasn’t always like this, though. My grandmother was a pillar in that church. A Southern Baptist congregation that prided itself on “family values,” tradition, and photo ops of the pastors shaking hands with senators.
She was the kind of woman who showed up without being asked, who filled in for the sick nursery worker, cooked extra casseroles, and stayed late to wipe down folding tables.
Casseroles of food on a table | Source: Midjourney
She taught Youth Bible Study every Sunday night, helped plan fellowship dinners, drove the church van to retreats and choir tours. She tithed faithfully and gave extra Home Missions. She even funded scholarships for church kids who couldn’t afford to go on mission trips.
Nobody asked her to, she just did it.
She was faithful. She was humble. She was invisible, in the way that older women who do all the work and none of the talking often are.
A smiling older woman | Source: Midjourney
Her greatest gift wasn’t her service, it was how she made people feel. You never left Eleanor’s kitchen or classroom without feeling taller. She saw you. That was her superpower.
I was seven the first time I stayed at Grandma Eleanor’s house by myself. Grandpa Walter was away on a fishing trip. So, it was just me and her. I remember waking up in the middle of the night, scared by a dream I couldn’t remember, and padding down the hallway in my socks.
I didn’t even have to knock, she was already opening the door.
A little girl standing in a hallway | Source: Midjourney
She let me crawl into her bed without a word. Her sheets smelled like lavender and old books. She hummed a hymn I didn’t know the words to, but the melody stuck with me for years. Her hand rubbed soft circles on my back until my breath slowed.
That was her magic. She didn’t always know what to say. But she knew what you needed.
When I had my first heartbreak at 16, she was the only one I wanted to talk to. She didn’t give advice. She didn’t offer clichés. She just poured sweet tea into glass jars and sat with me on the porch.
Two glass jars of sweet tea | Source: Midjourney
At one point, she reached over, tapped my knee, and said, “If someone makes you feel small, they don’t belong near the big, beautiful things inside you.”
I cried harder after that, not because I was sad but because she saw me. She always had.
She taught me how to pray, how to iron a blouse properly, and how to take the high road without letting people walk all over me. She had this quiet strength that felt like standing next to a mountain.
An upset teenage girl sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney
No flash. No noise. Just steady, solid presence.
She was more than my grandmother. She was the compass I measured the world against.
And when she was abandoned, when they made her feel small, I promised myself I wouldn’t let that be the last chapter in her story.
An upset older woman | Source: Midjourney
My grandmother was 73 when everything changed. She was in a car accident that left her disabled. Her legs never fully recovered. Her bones ached constantly. The woman who used to garden before sunrise now struggled to climb the porch steps without her cane.
So, she wrote letters. She called. She asked the congregation for rides, prayer, and even visits.
They didn’t come. Not even one of them.
A car accident scene | Source: Midjourney
Not Pastor J., the man who baptized her grandkids and gave her the plaque for “Most Years of Service.”
Not Pastor M., the younger one who took over youth ministry and once proudly announced to the congregation that “Miss Eleanor’s potato salad could save souls.”
For ten years, she stayed home. She listened to sermons online.
A bowl of potato salad | Source: Midjourney
“Come home, Callie,” she told me one day on the phone. “Let’s listen to sermons together, baby. Let’s pray together. And when we’re done, we can have some fresh scones and jam. I’ve been teaching Grandpa how to bake.”
I used to do exactly what she wanted. She was my favorite person in the entire world, I would have done anything she asked.
Gran mailed in her tithe. She still sent cute birthday cards and batches of cupcakes to the church kids she used to teach.
A plate of scones and jam on a kitchen table | Source: Midjourney
And still, they never came.
I was 16 when I first realized what was happening. I visited Grandma every Sunday after church, still wearing my dress and heels, sometimes bringing her slices of lemon cake from the bakery she liked.
Every time, without fail, she’d ask the same thing.
“Did you see Pastor J., my Callie? Did he say anything about me?”
At first, I lied. Not big lies, just small, soft ones that would land easy on her heart.
Slices of lemon cake in a bakery | Source: Midjourney
“He says he’s praying for you,” I’d nod. “He asked how you were doing. He said he misses your cornbread, Gran.”
It made her smile. That kind of hopeful, aching smile people wear when they know something isn’t true but need to believe it anyway. I hated how easily she accepted the scraps of comfort I gave her.
But one day, I couldn’t do it anymore.
She asked me the question again as she added a spoon of sugar to her tea. She was all hopeful eyes and soft cardigan sleeves.
Pieces of cornbread on a wooden board | Source: Midjourney
This time I wasn’t going to lie.
“Gran… they don’t talk about you anymore. I’m sorry.”
“What do you mean, Callie?” she asked.
“I mean… they don’t ask about you.”
She didn’t flinch. She just nodded once. Like she already knew. Like her heart had already made peace with being forgotten. But I could see it in the way her hand stopped mid-stir in her tea.
A cup of milky tea on a side table | Source: Midjourney
She didn’t drink it that day.
And she never brought them up again.
The final blow came when she was dying.
She was in hospice, frail and shrinking into herself. Her skin was papery against the white sheets. Machines beeped softly in the background like a countdown. Her breath rattled in her chest. Still, she asked for Pastor J.
An older woman laying in a bed | Source: Midjourney
“Just to talk, Callie,” she said, sighing. “Just once more. I want to go over the services. The hymn that will be sung. That verse in Isaiah, the one about wings like eagles.”
I nodded and told her that I’d pass the message along. But he never came.
Instead, Pastor M. showed up. With his too-white teeth and shiny shoes. He smiled too much. He walked fast and talked even faster, like he was on a timer.
A pensive young woman | Source: Midjourney
He stayed exactly 15 minutes and spent 12 of them circling the same question.
“Have you remembered the church in your will, Eleanor?”
My jaw almost touched the ground.
“I know you’ve always had a generous heart, Eleanor,” he said, placing a hand on hers like he owned it. “And the Lord sees your faithfulness. A bequest could mean a new roof. A scholarship. A real legacy.”
A close up of a man wearing glasses | Source: Midjourney
He didn’t ask if she was afraid. He didn’t ask what she needed. He didn’t ask which hymns spoke to her soul. Instead, cold and calculated, he asked about money.
My grandfather stood in the corner of the hospice room, fists clenched so tight, his knuckles turned white. His jaw moved, like he was chewing the words back down.
“She’s not gone yet,” he said. “And this isn’t the time.”
A close up of an older man | Source: Midjourney
Pastor M. smiled wider, like he was used to swallowing shame and calling it grace.
“Just planting seeds, Brother Walter. Planting seeds for something beautiful to grow…” he said, patting the air like he was blessing us.
He left with the same smug calm he walked in with. Clipboard tucked under his arm. Collared shirt crisp. Not one word about heaven. Not one word about Gran’s life.
A clipboard on a side table | Source: Midjourney
After the door clicked shut, silence filled the room like smoke. Then Gran cried.
I hadn’t seen her cry in years. Not after the accident. Not when she lost friends or strength or dignity. But this? This cut something deeper.
“He didn’t ask me about my soul,” she whispered. “He just asked me about my money.”
My grandfather sat beside her then. He didn’t say much. He just held her hand, the way he always did when words weren’t enough.
A crying old woman | Source: Midjourney
I remember sitting there, watching the two of them, feeling the grief shift inside me. Not just for what we were losing but for how little she got back after giving so much.
That day, something broke. But not in a bitter way. It was clarity.
In the six months that followed, Gran planned. Quietly, steadily. With every ounce of intention she’d once poured into youth retreats and Bible study lessons, she rewrote the final chapter of her story.
A side view of a young woman | Source: Midjourney
And when she passed, we honored her the way she would’ve wanted. Without hypocrisy. The service was held in a modest funeral home, not the church. Just soft music, folding chairs, and people who showed up.
My grandfather made that call.
“They don’t get to grieve her in public when they ignored her in private,” he said.
He stood at the front of the room that day. Gran’s worn leather Bible pressed to his chest like a shield. His voice didn’t shake. He wasn’t angry, just honest.
An old Bible and a vase of flowers | Source: Midjourney
“The church she gave her life to gave her nothing in return. They abandoned our Eleanor. And when she was dying, they came to ask for her money, not her forgiveness, not her blessing. Just her estate.”
We sang “It Is Well with My Soul,” the same hymn that my grandmother used to hum while kneading dough in her kitchen. We passed the mic and people stood up to share stories. About Gran’s cornbread, her Sunday hugs, the time she drove a van full of rowdy teens to the next state and kept her cool with nothing but peppermint oil and a firm voice.
She was remembered, not for her giving, but for who she gave herself to.
A bottle of peppermint essential oil | Source: Midjourney
Two weeks later, we gathered for the reading of the will. Denise, Gran’s lawyer, had been in her Bible study group years ago. She wore soft blue that day and smiled gently at all of us before opening the folder in her lap.
I was surprised to see the Pastors walk in, dressed to the nines, looking around the room like they owned it.
“I heard she left something to the church,” Pastor M. said to no one in particular. He smirked like he already knew he was getting a windfall.
A lawyer wearing a blue pantsuit | Source: Midjourney
The will began.
To Grandpa, her husband of 54 years, Gran left her portion of the house and their joint savings, and a letter about the first time they danced barefoot in the kitchen.
“You gave me the strength to give to everyone else,” she wrote. “Now, I give it all back to you, my love.”
A smiling old man | Source: Midjourney
To me, she left her recipe book, her first Bible with the pages worn soft from love, and a bracelet she said she bought when I was born because the stone reminded her of my eyes.
“My Callie girl, you’re the light of every room. You’ve been one of the brightest lights in my life, sweetheart.”
To the others, she left quilts she had sewn herself, heirlooms tucked into labeled boxes, small accounts for the kids’ college funds, and handwritten notes folded like prayers.
A pensive young woman | Source: Midjourney
Then Denise paused. She looked directly at the two pastors and cleared her throat.
“This next portion is directed toward the Pastors. It is a personal statement from Eleanor.”
Denise unfolded a second piece of paper and began to read.
“To the pastors of the church I once called home:
A letter on a desk | Source: Midjourney
I loved you. I served the Lord alongside you. I gave you decades of my life. But in my final years, when I could no longer bring you food or money, I became invisible to you. I waited for calls that never came. I invited you in, and you stayed away.
You left me alone. Until it was time to collect. And then, all you wanted was what I could give you. Not my stories. Not my fears. Not my prayers. Just my assets.
An older woman standing outside a church | Source: Midjourney
I once planned to leave 20% of my estate to the church. I believed in the mission. I believed in you.
Pastor J., you ignored me.
Pastor M., you reduced me to a transaction.
For that, you each receive one cent.
My final donation has gone instead to Reverend Lila Hayes. She brought me meals. She prayed with me. She sat with Walter and Callie and my children. She was at the hands and feet of the Lord when you were just the mouth. You broke my heart. But I won’t let you profit from it.”
A smiling woman in a navy dress | Source: Midjourney
“This is unnecessary,” Pastor J. muttered. “Cruel.”
“No,” my grandfather said, rising beside me. “What you did was cruel. This is just truth. And it’s long overdue.”
They left without another word.
The money that my grandmother donated was enough to fund a year of the church’s charity pantry, legal aid for foster families, and new books for their children’s literacy program.
A stack of children’s books | Source: Midjourney
“Your grandmother was a light. Thank you for letting her shine one more time.”
And that was my grandmother, Eleanor.
“Hopefully those fools have learned their lesson, Callie,” Grandpa Walter said. “It’s in the Lord’s hands now.”
A smiling older woman standing outside a church | Source: Midjourney
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