This Girl Was ‘Molested’ by Babysitter as a Child — Now This 90s Icon Lives Alone with 5 Dogs on Her Farm

“I hope you die!” she told her former babysitter.

Her first wedding took place on the beach.

She thinks her new look is “a little rebellious.”

Despite her humble birth on July 1, 1967, in Ladysmith, British Columbia, to a waitress and jack-of-all-trades, the brunette in the photo’s birth was reported in a newspaper. She was the first centennial baby.

She went on to have an extraordinary life sparked by another instance of being in the right place at the right time. However, she first had to survive a traumatic childhood of violence and abuse.

Her parents were 17 and 19 when they had her and still went out occasionally. Somewhere between the ages of four and eight, she had a female babysitter who molested her for around a year.

The babysitter “sexualized” the girl at a very young age, making her play inappropriate games. One day, the caretaker told her because she is a “bad girl,” Santa Claus would not visit her that year.

“I ran after her in tears, calling her a liar… and clumsily stabbed her with a candy-cane-striped pen in her chest,” she penned in her memoir. “‘I hope you die!’ I screamed through tears.”

The female predator died in a car accident following her graduation not long after. On hearing the news, the girl came to believe it was her doing, that she had some extraordinary power. She carried this with her for her “entire young life,” eventually confiding in her mom and dad.

Her parent’s volatile relationship would also cause her to act out. Once, when the couple was fighting, she tried to divert attention away from it by telling her younger brother to hide while she convinced the town that he was missing.

Her father would dole out cruel punishments. When she went against his wishes to have her kittens in the house, he placed them in a paper bag and drowned them in the ocean. “I felt like I died that night, too,” she remembers.

Between ages 12 and 14, she was sexually assaulted twice, and a boyfriend kicked her out of a moving car. She once stopped her father from assaulting her mom further by punching him.

The young brunette became known as “Blue Zone Girl” when she was spotted on a jumbotron at a football game, but she would soon be renowned worldwide by her real name, Pamela Anderson.

A beer company scouted her as a spokesmodel, leading to a Playboy shoot. A “Home Improvement” role brought her into the mainstream, but she became a superstar portraying CJ on “Baywatch.”

Her whirlwind romance with drummer Tommy Lee crescendoed into a wedding on the beach in Cancun, Mexico, in 1995, where she wore a white string bikini and he was in trunks. The couple had two children, Dylan Jagger and Brandon Thomas.

The footage they made during their honeymoon was stolen and sold as one of the first sex tapes of the internet era. The actress has never watched the tape but has felt its effects. She wrote how it “ruined lives,” starting with their relationship.

Lee was jailed for four months after he was found guilty of spousal abuse, and they divorced in 1998. She filed for full custody of the children in 2012, claiming that he was emotionally and physically abusive towards them.

Anderson has experienced a resurgence in her career. She has taken back the narrative surrounding her crafted by the media with a memoir, “Love, Pamela,” and participating in the companion Netflix documentary.

Returning to her coastal hometown of Ladysmith, Anderson found a “healing space” with its “crazy calmness.” With limited paparazzi on the island, she feels protected. She lives alone with her five dogs.

“I live a more romantic life now that I’m alone than I did in relationships,” Anderson said of the home she made in her grandparent’s old farmhouse.

The humanitarian runs through the waves on the beach adjoined to her property year-round. When not working, she keeps busy in the 15,000-square-foot vegetable and rose garden and has taken up pottery. “I’m very crafty. I didn’t realize,” she said.

In an interview with People in January 2023, she conceded that she would like to have someone to share her life but that it tended to be a case of her catering to her partner’s needs. After Lee, she wed Kid Rock and married Rick Salomon twice (one of which was annulled).

Her most recent marriage to Dan Hayhurst lasted only a few months and ended in 2021. The “V.I.P.” star has learned that she does not need a man to bring her roses:

“I’ve just planted a hundred rose bushes. I can get them any time I want — and they’re my favorite roses.”

She told Elle in August 2023 that the early morning hours were her favorite time. Anderson spends this time writing a newsletter, though she quipped she does this to distract herself from writing long, rambling emails to her sons.

Just as gardening and writing in the mornings replaced the party lifestyle she enjoyed at the height of her fame, so has her signature beauty look morphed into something else.

Pamela Anderson in the migrant and refugee camp of Grande-Synthe, northern France, on January 25, 2017. | Source: Getty Images

She was known for big blond hair, thin brows, and heavy eye makeup with tiny outfits that were, by her own account, “wild and uninhibited.” Anderson added:

“I don’t know if it was a defense mechanism or what. I just thought, ‘I’m going to have fun.’”

Over the past few years, she has been sporting a more stripped-down beauty look, sometimes looking like she is not wearing makeup. Following the death of her makeup artist, Alexis Vogel, she started taking a new approach. She explained:

“She was the best. And since then, I just felt, without Alexis, it’s just better for me not to wear makeup.”

The star might have turned her back on the signature look, but a new generation of people have rediscovered her Y2K style and #Pamcore trends frequently on TikTok.

The animal lover contends that her beauty update is “freeing, and fun, and a little rebellious too.” When she looks in the mirror, she feels “rooted for.” Pamela Anderson says she is in a good place.

Minutes Before My Wedding, I Learned the Truth—So I Ran

Minutes before I walked down the aisle to marry the man I thought I’d spend my life with, my world crumbled. A truth so devastating unraveled that I couldn’t face him or our guests. So, I fled. Mascara streaking my face, I ran in my wedding dress down the highway.

We’ve all heard stories about runaway brides, but I never thought I’d become one.

There I was, ditching my own wedding. Tears streamed down my face. I couldn’t go through with it because minutes before the ceremony, I discovered something about Grant that turned my world upside down.

An upset bride | Source: Midjourney

An upset bride | Source: Midjourney

I’ve always believed life has a way of falling into place when the timing is right.

By thirty, I had everything I ever wanted. A good job in marketing, a beautiful home, and the love of my life, Grant, by my side.

We’d been together for as long as I could remember. We met in high school when I was sixteen, and from that moment, we were inseparable.

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A couple holding hands | Source: Pexels

Grant was everything I’d ever dreamed of in a partner. He was perfect, and he had this way of making me feel like the most important person in the world. After all, that’s what all of us want to feel like, right?

“I’ll always be by your side, Sadie,” he once told me during a quiet evening at the beach.

“And I’ll always be by yours,” I replied, squeezing his hand. “No matter what.”

We talked about our future often. We wanted to get married, start a family, and grow old together.

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A couple sitting together | Source: Pexels

“You’re my forever,” he whispered one night, tucking a strand of hair behind my ear.

Those words stayed with me. Even through the ups and downs of life, I believed we’d make it through anything.

So, when he proposed three years ago, I was the happiest woman alive.

It was a perfect day. Grant took me to our favorite spot by the lake, got down on one knee, and asked me to marry him.

“Yes!” I cried, barely letting him finish his question.

A man holding a woman's hand | Source: Pexels

A man holding a woman’s hand | Source: Pexels

We celebrated that night with friends and family, and I couldn’t stop smiling. This was it. My life was finally falling into place.

The next three years flew by in a blur of wedding planning and work. Grant was busy with his job, and I threw myself into making sure our wedding day would be perfect.

To be honest, it was. Until it wasn’t.

I couldn’t have imagined how quickly things would take a turn for the worse.

A woman on her big day | Source: Midjourney

A woman on her big day | Source: Midjourney

Fast forward to our wedding day.

The church was beautifully decorated with white roses and delicate fairy lights, just as I’d envisioned. Meanwhile, I felt like a princess in my stunning lace gown.

I stood at the back of the church, clutching my bouquet, as my heart raced with anticipation. This was the moment I had been waiting for. Walking down the aisle to the man I loved.

But before I could take a single step, my heart shattered into a million pieces.

A close-up shot of wedding aisle decor | Source: Pexels

A close-up shot of wedding aisle decor | Source: Pexels

“Sadie,” my best friend, Lila, called out. Her face was pale, and her hands shook as she clutched her phone. “I need to talk to you.”

I frowned. “Lila, now? We’re about to start.”

She shook her head fiercely. “No, you need to see this right now.”

I set my bouquet down, confusion turning to dread as I took her phone. The screen showed a Reddit thread.

“Read the post,” Lila urged, her voice trembling. “I found it by accident. It just… popped up.”

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A woman using a phone | Source: Pexels

My heart skipped a beat as I scrolled.

The post was titled, When your fiancé celebrates with someone who’s not the bride.

And then my gaze landed on a photo of Grant.

It was taken at his bachelor party two nights before. In the picture, he sat with a woman on his lap. They were kissing.

I stared at the screen, the image burning into my mind.

I could barely process the caption beneath the photo, “Guess she’s not the one walking down the aisle this weekend.”

A bride looking at her friend's phone | Source: Midjourney

A bride looking at her friend’s phone | Source: Midjourney

“This can’t be real,” I whispered, shaking my head in disbelief.

“Sadie…” Lila placed a hand on my arm, steadying me. “It is. I double-checked. That’s him. That’s Grant.”

I dropped onto the nearest chair, my legs too weak to hold me.

Grant? The man I’d loved for years? My Grant?

I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t digest that a photo of my fiancé kissing another woman was circulating online, being dissected by strangers.

“I can’t do this,” I whispered.

An upset bride on her wedding day | Source: Midjourney

An upset bride on her wedding day | Source: Midjourney

That’s when Lila knelt beside me.

“Sadie, you don’t have to,” she said. “You don’t owe him anything. But you need to decide now.”

I looked at her through tears. “What am I supposed to do? There are 150 people waiting for me out there.”

“Forget them,” she said firmly. “This is about you. What do you want to do?”

I took a deep breath, trying to steady myself. Every instinct told me to confront Grant, demand answers. But how? In front of everyone?

No. I couldn’t do it. Not like this.

An upset bride thinking about her life | Source: Midjourney

An upset bride thinking about her life | Source: Midjourney

“I’m leaving,” I said while grabbing my things. “I’m done.”

Lila stood, nodding. “I’ll cover for you as long as I can.”

Without looking back, I left the bridal suite. I didn’t know where I was going, but I just kept walking, past the church, past the guests waiting inside.

Cars sped by, honking occasionally at the sight of a bride walking along the highway. My dress dragged through the dirt, and mascara streaked down my face. I must have looked like something out of a sad country song.

Then, a pickup truck pulled over.

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A pickup truck | Source: Pexels

I wiped my eyes and glanced up, surprised to see a man leaning out the window.

“Sadie?” he called, his voice unsure. “Is that you?”

I looked at him and immediately recognized him from photos. It was Ethan. Grant’s older brother.

He’d never come to visit while I was with Grant, but I knew who he was. The black sheep of the family, they called him.

“What happened?” Ethan asked, his brows knitting in concern. “Why are you out here like this? Get in. I’ll drive you wherever you need to go.”

A man sitting in his car | Source: Midjourney

A man sitting in his car | Source: Midjourney

I shook my head. “Only if you promise to drive me away.”

His lips twitched into a small smile. “Deal.”

I nodded and climbed into the truck.

As we drove, I finally let it all out. The betrayal, the photo, and the humiliation.

Ethan listened quietly, handing me tissues as I sobbed. “What a jerk,” he muttered at one point, making me laugh through my tears.

It felt good to talk.

But just as I started to relax, Ethan slammed on the brakes.

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A man holding a steering wheel | Source: Pexels

“What are you doing, Ethan?” I yelped, my heart racing.

Ethan looked at me, guilt etched across his face. “Sadie, I’m sorry. I have to.”

Before I could ask what he meant, he turned the truck around. We were heading straight back to the wedding.

“I can’t go back there,” I said, my voice cracking. “They’re all going to see me like this and I don’t want that! They’ll think I ran away because—”

“You have nothing to be ashamed of,” Ethan cut me off. “The person who should be humiliated is Grant. Not you. You’ll expose him. Tell everyone what he really is.”

A serious man driving a car | Source: Midjourney

A serious man driving a car | Source: Midjourney

I wanted to argue, to insist he drop me off anywhere but there. But deep down, I knew Ethan was right. The truth had to come out.

“You’ll be there with me?” I whispered.

He nodded. “Every step of the way.”

When we pulled into the church parking lot, the guests were already trickling out. The ceremony had clearly been canceled, but some family members lingered near the entrance, including Grant.

A groom standing in a parking lot | Source: Midjourney

A groom standing in a parking lot | Source: Midjourney

My heart pounded as I climbed out of the truck. Lila spotted me first and rushed over.

“Sadie!” she cried, relief flooding her face. “Are you okay?”

“I’m fine,” I nodded. “I need to do this.”

Grant’s eyes locked on me as I walked toward him with Ethan by my side. His expression shifted from confusion to anger the moment he saw Ethan.

“Where the heck have you been?” Grant snapped. “What’s he doing here?”

I ignored his questions.

A bride standing in a parking lot | Source: Midjourney

A bride standing in a parking lot | Source: Midjourney

Then, I pulled out my phone, opened the post Lila had shown me, and held it up for everyone to see.

“This is why I left,” I announced. “Grant was with another woman two nights ago at his bachelor party.”

Gasps rippled through the small crowd as they looked at the photo.

“That’s not what it looks like!” Grant argued. “It’s taken out of context!”

“Out of context?” I shot back. “How do you explain kissing another woman while celebrating your bachelor party?!”

A bride looking straight ahead | Source: Midjourney

A bride looking straight ahead | Source: Midjourney

Grant opened his mouth to speak, but Ethan stepped in front of me, cutting him off.

“Don’t,” Ethan said firmly. “You’ve done enough.”

Grant’s face contorted with fury. “Stay out of this, Ethan! This has nothing to do with you!”

“That doesn’t mean you can get away with this, Grant!” Ethan yelled. “You can’t cheat on Sadie like that!”

At that point, Grant lunged forward and pushed Ethan, but thankfully, Grant’s friends held him back. Their father also came forward and helped Ethan get up.

That day marked the end of my relationship with Grant. I never spoke to him again.

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A woman standing near a window | Source: Pexels

But Ethan? We stayed in touch.

Over the following weeks, I learned about his struggles. A failing family farm and a mountain of debt that Grant had refused to help him with.

Ethan was planning to sell his pickup truck, his last possession of value, to stay afloat.

That’s when I had an idea.

I took the money I’d saved for my honeymoon and offered to help Ethan turn his farm into a farm-to-table subscription box business.

It was a risk, but it paid off.

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A green field near a house | Source: Pexels

A year later, Ethan invited me back to the farm. The fields were thriving, the business was booming, and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I was exactly where I was meant to be.

And standing there, side by side with Ethan, I realized I’d gained something far better than a husband. I’d found a loyal partner and the best friend I never knew I needed.

I’m so grateful to Lila for showing me that Reddit post. Otherwise, I would’ve married Grant without knowing what kind of a person he truly was.

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This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

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