According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
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Pamela Anderson, the iconic Baywatch star and Canadian-American beauty, is making headlines again, and this time it’s not for her red swimsuit running down the beach. In the latest Proenza Schouler SS/24 campaign, Anderson continues to embrace her fresh-faced look and defies age, showcasing her timeless beauty. The luxury women’s fashion brand, established in 2002 by Jack McCollough and Lazaro Hernandez, couldn’t have chosen a more fitting muse to represent their collection.
In the campaign, Pamela Anderson appears ageless, with minimal makeup that accentuates her natural beauty. She graces the camera wearing the New York label’s stunning $1,790 ‘Lara Knit Dress’ in vibrant red. However, what’s truly remarkable is that it seems Anderson is wearing little to no makeup, except for a touch of lip gloss.
The decision to showcase Anderson’s natural beauty is not accidental. The 56-year-old actress and model has been an advocate for embracing one’s true self and challenging conventional standards of beauty. In a recent interview with Vogue France, she shаrеd her perspective, saying, “I’m not into the makeup look right now. My mom always told me, ‘At some point in your life, you’re not going to want to wear makeup on your skin.’ And she’s right.”
This isn’t the first time Pamela Anderson has boldly embraced her natural look. Last October, during Paris Fashion Week festivities, she proudly announced her decision to wear only her DIY rose oil on her alabaster complexion. This move reflects her commitment to authentic beauty and her desire to inspire others to embrace their natural selves.Behind the scenes of this stunning campaign, Anderson had the support of her trusted makeup artist, Cyndle Komarovski, who also worked with her for the Daily Front Row’s Fashion Media Awards in Manhattan on September 8, where she accepted the Style Icon Award. Cyndle’s minimalistic approach to makeup perfectly aligns with Anderson’s vision of beauty, allowing her natural radiance to shine through.
Hairstylist Karim Belghiran and nail artist Alicia Torello completed Anderson’s look for the Proenza Schouler campaign. They transformed her signature blonde mane, taking out some volume, and applied a classic red manicure, enhancing her timeless style. The entire look was curated by stylist Thistle Brown, who ensured Anderson’s effortless beauty was front and center.
In addition to her stunning appearance in the Proenza Schouler campaign, Pamela Anderson has been making waves in her career. She’s currently working on a cookbook, fulfilling a lifelong dream. “This has always been my dream to have a cooking show. Always, always, always,” Anderson shаrеd. “Brandon came to me and said, ‘Mom, your dream is going to come true.’ And now we are on Food Network Canada, which is even better because I am so insistent on doing Canadian projects and working with Canadian production companies.”Pamela’s Cooking With Love, her upcoming vegan cooking show, is set to premiere later this year on Food Network Canada.
Anderson’s passion for cooking and her commitment to a plant-based lifestyle have come together to create a show that promises to delight viewers with delicious and nutritious meals. Anderson expressed her excitement about the show, saying, “Michelin star chefs, James Beard Award winners, and all these incredible chefs from all over the world came to my little barn on the island, and we cooked the most amazing mind-blowing meals. I mean, my head just exploded every episode. I was so excited! I was likе a sponge, just soaking it all in!”
In addition to her flourishing career, Pamela Anderson is also a proud mother of two sons, Brandon Thomas Lee and Dylan Jagger Lee. Both of them showed their support for their mother’s Proenza Schouler campaign by Instastorying it with supportive emojis. Pamela welcomed these two talented young men during her three-year marriage to three-time Grammy nominee Tommy Lee, which ended in 1998.
As Pamela Anderson continues to inspire us with her beauty, authenticity, and resilience, it’s clear that age is just a number. Her timeless elegance and unwavering commitment to embracing her true self make her an icon for generations to come. In a world often obsessed with youth and superficial beauty, Pamela Anderson reminds us that the real essence of beauty lies in being confident in who we are.
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