I recently came over a sociological experiment where a female was left by alone by the sidewalk while she was dressed properly. When most people noticed her, they took the time to stop and inquire about her parents’ whereabouts and whether she needed assistance. Now, the same girl was left standing in the same spot, her garments soiled and tattered. Many individuals went past her, but none of them seemed to pay any attention. And those who did looked on with bitterness.
This is today’s depressing reality. It begs the question, “When did this world turn into a place where egotistical people only consider other people’s appearances?” Or, why is a rich person’s life more valuable than a poor person’s?
Fortunately, we encounter someone along the road who demonstrates that not everyone has lost the capacity to feel sympathy for those who are less fortunate, which gives us hope that all is not lost.
When Casey Fischer noticed a homeless man on the side of the road gathering change, she decided to stop by Dunkin’ Donuts for coffee during her break from courses. Then he went inside, thinking he would buy something to eat.
Fisher could see that the man had barely made $1 in change in his hand as she drew nearer. Then she invited him to join her at her table and offered to pay for his bagel and coffee.
The man identified himself as Chris and told Fischer that the only reason he was frequently treated poorly was that he was homeless.
He acknowledged that his drug misuse made him into the person he detested. Being the person his late mother would have been proud of was basically all he wanted out of life. yet in some way was unable to do so.
Fischer told Chris she was happy to meet him and said she had to leave since it was time for her to return to class. The man, however, motioned for her to wait a moment, got a piece of crumpled paper, scrawled something on it, and gave it to his new friend.
When Fischer opened the note, she was taken aback. She had no idea that her actions would have such a profound impact on the homeless man. This meeting meant far more to him than simply catching up over coffee and bagels. Something in him altered as a result.
The note said, “I wanted to kill myself today.” I no longer do as a result of you. I’m grateful, lovely individual.
We also like to thank this beautiful girl. This world needs you to make the necessary changes in order to continue.
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MY HUSBAND DYED HIS HAIR BLACK AT 78, AND I THINK IT LOOKS ABSURD. SHOULD I TELL HIM TO EMBRACE HIS AGE?
I pondered my options. Should I confront him directly, risking a potential argument? Or should I subtly hint at my disapproval, hoping he’d get the message? After much deliberation, I decided on a more tactful approach.
I started by complimenting him on other aspects of his appearance. “You look so handsome in that new sweater,” I said, trying to steer the conversation away from his hair. Then, I casually mentioned a news article about the trend of older men embracing their natural gray hair. I emphasized how attractive and distinguished it can make a man look.
He listened intently, a thoughtful expression on his face. I could see the wheels turning in his head. A few days later, he surprised me. He had stopped dyeing his hair! He looked refreshed, more natural, and surprisingly younger.
I realized that sometimes, a gentle nudge is all it takes. Instead of criticizing, I had simply presented a different perspective. And in the end, he made the right choice.
A few weeks later, we were out to dinner with some old friends. As we were waiting for our table, a young woman approached us. She complimented my husband on his “silver fox” look and asked him what hair dye he used. He chuckled and admitted that he hadn’t dyed his hair in weeks. The woman was surprised and impressed.
“You should keep it this way,” she said. “It’s so much more attractive.”
My husband beamed with pride. I couldn’t help but smile. It seemed that everyone else could see what I had been trying to tell him all along.
The incident taught me a valuable lesson: sometimes, the best approach is not to criticize, but to guide and suggest. By gently nudging him in the right direction, I helped him make a decision that not only improved his appearance but also boosted his self-confidence.
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